* i wrote this post in march and never got around to posting it (i do that a lot). it was after a conversation with an awesome mommy & ministry leader who told me how hard it was to juggle being a mom and leading at the same time. in her mind, she kept […]
Read Moreour fatal attraction
my husband jose has a theory about people. he says that in some weird ways, “we’re always going back to our abusive dads, trying to please them.” he doesn’t mean this in a literal sense (although it’s true for some), but rather that human beings are strangely drawn toward being mistreated. that we live our […]
Read Moreof logs and stones
“let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” john 8:7 “why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” luke 6:41 “do to others as you would have them do […]
Read Moreunless we're all free, none of us are free.
“freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed.“ – martin luther king, jr. most of you know i’m a nut case for equality. you hear me talking a lot about gender equality but that’s just because it’s a critical starting place. when half of the population of the […]
Read Morereframing crazy when it comes to church
how many times have you all heard me talk about our “crazy” little church, the refuge? and about how people i know who are doing all kinds of wild & beautiful missional things for the kingdom are a “little crazy but not alone”? or how “crazy” my life in the trenches is? i use […]
Read Moresettling for crumbs
* i wrote this last month & never got around to posting it. i’ve recently been thinking about it even more, how awesome it would be if we had more help planting new trees. but it requires people to bravely give up the old and begin actively participating in creating the new. * * […]
Read Moreplant new trees.
“then God said, “let us make human beings in our image, to be like us.” – genesis 1:26, NLT this past week i saw a flurry of facebook posts about john piper’s latest words about masculine christianity. i am pretty out of the blog-reading circuit because there are only so many hours in the day […]
Read Moreit's a helluva lot of people being influenced
when it comes to church, i firmly believe that the “best criticism of the bad is the practice of the better.” at the same time, i think it’s sometimes worth calling out its inconsistencies when it comes to the so-contrary-to-the-non-oppressive-ways-of-Jesus as a reminder and to gain resolve & clarity on why we feel so passionate […]
Read Morewalking wounded: hope for those hurt by church
have you… been asked to leave a church or told you’re not a “good fit”? felt forced to conform or remain consistently overlooked? been told that you are loved but not your sin? questioned leadership or theology and found yourself on the outside? felt sad, angry, afraid, lost, or disoriented after painful church experiences? i’m […]
Read Morewhy sometimes i get sad
last month a mainline pastor from a small town outside of denver got in touch with me to see if i would be willing to come speak to their high school’s baccalaureate service in may. they were looking for a female pastor, someone who would inspire the kids & open up some doors that hadn’t […]
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