Oh, Mother’s Day. The holiday that stirs up so much trouble for so many. I’ve got multiple posts on my blog related to Mother’s Day (see the search bar) that I wrote long before Jared died because I had so many friends suffering through every second week of May. For me, since my first Mother’s […]
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Hey There! I’m Kathy Escobar! I’m a community cultivator and a change catalyzer. I believe in the power of human connection and that healthier people make healthier families, communities, and systems. I help create safe and brave spaces for transformation and healing for individuals and teams in real life, online, and outside. I’m passionate about […]
Read Morehow to survive losing a child
October is here, the leaves are beautiful, and there’s a big aching pit in my stomach. On October 28th, it’ll be 3 years since Jared died. 3 years? It feels impossible, yet here we are, and I know we are far from alone. In August I went to a retreat with 8 other moms from my […]
Read Moreroe v. wade: the great backslide will not take us in it
A few nights ago Jose and I were overseas visiting our daughter, an army dentist. We had a long conversation about misogyny, patriarchy, power, and the realities women face just for being…women. No matter our ages, my experience continues to be that we all have so many hard stories. For me, the deepest pain is […]
Read Morehope prevails and humans are incredible.
Oh 2022, I think we’re all a bit scared of you….but this morning as I crawl out of bed to a yard blanketed with desperately needed snow (and a trampoline that flew across it in the wind this week), I have been thinking about hope. I love hope. But I know hope is dangerous, too. […]
Read Morea thing (or 5) about narcissism
This week’s episode of Soul + Practice, the new podcast my friend Phyllis Mathis and I finally launched this Fall after a 2 1/2 year delay, is called “Narcissists.” Our weekly conversations are centered on the things we talk about on our Monday walks, and there’s rarely a week that somehow, some way, the topic […]
Read More“You can’t change the world, but you can change someone’s world” – Jared Luke Escobar, 11/11/99 ~ 10/28/19
Two years ago tomorrow our wild and beautiful Jared left this earth. There truly are no words to describe the feeling of the depth of this loss, and as we brace for tomorrow I have spent today in the grief tsunami that’s stirred by anniversaries. Part of my day has been finally reading a bunch […]
Read Morewe suck at interdependence.
I have been thinking a lot about the state of the United States of America right now. Of the reality of Delta variant raging through our country, with 1,000+ deaths a day this past week—even when a solution is available. Of news of the horrible events unfolding in Afghanistan and the incredible collateral damage to […]
Read Morea both/and july 4th
Oh, July 4th! It used to be a holiday that I didn’t think much about. While over the years I began to question it’s meaning, I’ll admit, the past 4+ years was I when I seriously began wrestling with wanting to skip it. Donald Trump elected as President shifted something in my soul that I […]
Read Morecrawling through mother’s day
It’s been a long time since I’ve written anything here, and I haven’t had much room for social media, either, as I transitioned back from a 3 month sabbatical April 1st. My focus has been on The Refuge and practicing some of the things I learned from my time off. But today, I just felt […]
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