“for my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. – isaiah 55:8-9 * * * * * even though I find a lot of things in the Bible confusing, i have always […]
Read Morebreastfeeding hurts & other things we need to be more honest about.
* i wrote this post in march and never got around to posting it (i do that a lot). it was after a conversation with an awesome mommy & ministry leader who told me how hard it was to juggle being a mom and leading at the same time. in her mind, she kept […]
Read More10 things to remember when you're healing from faith shifts
if you’re one of those people who are healing from church & faith shifts, you know how raw and weird the process can be. rebuilding after deconstructing addresses some of this, but i wanted to add a few more posts to the series over the next few months because there are so many layers to this […]
Read Morefriendship heals.
“i no longer call you my servants, i call you my friends” – Jesus in april i was honored to be part of the first sacred friendship gathering in chicago, coordinated by my friend dan brennan, who is a brave & amazing advocate for cross-gender friendships. when i got home from the gathering, i entered into […]
Read Moreex-good-christian-women
i used to be a really good christian woman. like one of the best. i said the right things, did the right things, played nice. the only problem was that what was on the outside & what was on the inside were two different things. i believe evangelical christianity has created a lot of […]
Read Morenoticing what is, not what isn't.
// i usually pace things out a little more here but i’m going out of town tomorrow for a week. if i don’t get things up when they come, the moment sort of passes so sharing these while they’re fresh. one more tomorrow & then back for summer and planning to try a few new […]
Read Moreon becoming less divided.
“in an effort to not be a divisive woman, i became a divided woman” – pam hogeweide, at the unladylike: resisting the injustice of inequality in the church event at the refuge this past friday night. * * * * * in an effort to not be a divisive woman, i became a divided woman. oh […]
Read Morerebuilding is possible: a little hope for deconstruction
when i originally had this idea for a rebuilding after deconstructing series, i didn’t know exactly what it would be like. i just knew i wanted to write what was on my heart and see what happened. i have so appreciated all of the comments & honesty & the lovely new people i have met […]
Read Morei used to….but now i….
i loved all those responses to yesterday’s soul care & spiritual practices during deconstruction! so many healing practices; thank you for sharing and feel free to still add yours. the other day when i was driving in my car thinking about this series, an old post that i wrote 3 years ago came to mind. it’s […]
Read Moresoul care & spiritual practices for deconstruction
in the last post we made a few lists related to what helped & what didn’t from others during deconstruction. such good stuff, such hard stuff. thank you for sharing so honestly. i am going to try to pull something together from it so feel free to add yours if you haven’t already. as the […]
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