last week was a big week for me; after sending our oldest son back to college the week before, we took our daughter to start her freshman year in college in new york city, got our twins started in middle school, and sent our #3 off to florida for a football team adventure. to top […]
Read Morefriendship: men & women can be friends, here's a place to start
* this is the final post in this series related to cultivating healthy friendship. the other posts are: mind-reading, assumptions, and saying our crazy stuff out loud, safety & boundaries aren’t dumb psychology words, conflict is good (even though most of us hate it), and learning to let go. it’s been fun for me to re-cap […]
Read Morefriendship: learning to let go
* this is the 4th post of highlights from our sacred friendship summer camp, practical ideas for becoming better friends. you can look back on the past few days to see the other posts; they are centered on the crazy stuff in our heads, safety & boundaries, and conflict. * * * * one […]
Read Morefriendship: conflict is good (even though most of us hate it)
* this is part 3 from the refuge’s sacred friendship summer camp. the questions in bold are ones we somehow talked about together at our gathering or in the homework. * * * * * some of us are really good at navigating conflict in relationships, but many of us hate conflict. look at a […]
Read Morefriendship: safety & boundaries aren't dumb psychology words
* this is the next post from friendship summer camp. it’s interesting that even as i share these here i can hear a voice that says “where’s the scripture in here? are we really going to talk about psychology stuff? come on, let’s talk about theology and church instead!” (hmm, mind-reading?). but i will hold […]
Read Morefriendship: mind-reading, assumptions & saying-our-crazy-stuff-out-loud
* thanks for bearing with me while i archived a bunch of guest posts last week. i’m still waiting to hear back about my laptop and whether they could retrieve my data so here’s to hope. this week i’m going to be sharing 5 simple posts from the refuge’s sacred friendship summer camp that we […]
Read Moremissing in missional: we need more stories like these…
* a few months ago chris chappotin asked a question to a few of us on twitter–”what’s missing from the missional conversation?” i’m not the best twitter-er, but i responded with the first thing that came to my mind: more real stories. he asked if i’d write a post about it for a missing in missional […]
Read Moremissional pastoring head rattles
* i love my friend phil shepherd, aka, the whiskey preacher. he and his wife stephanie know the cost and beauty of nutty-in-the-trenches-with-people church planting. whenever we are together it feels like a gift; i always leave feeling a little less crazy, a little less alone. a few months ago he asked me to […]
Read Moreanger is not a sin
* remember this week i’m just archiving guest posts from other places over the past few months. you might have read them before. this one is from the amazing rachel held evans’ series on faith & parenting. i just realized that i somehow never responded to any of the comments over there (in my mind […]
Read Morewhat it means to follow
* i’ve been battling a nasty, annoying summer head cold these past few days that has knocked me off my block so just now getting around to posting some things i’ve written for other blogs over the past few months. i’ll start with this, up at provoketive magazine, for this august’s synchroblog. the subject was “follow” […]
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