Yep, today’s Father’s Day, another one of those weird days for so many. This week I have been thinking a little bit about the Southern Baptist move this week to disallow churches who affirm women pastors and just how dumb it all is, how many people across so many realities are continually harmed by male-dominated […]
Read Morereimagine.
When Faith Shift entered into the world in 2014 (!) I had a few core things I wanted to communicate—that we weren’t crazy and were weren’t alone in our faith shifts and that the movements I walked through in the book—Fusing, Shifting, Returning, Unraveling, Severing, and Rebuilding—weren’t a formula or a step by step anything. […]
Read Moreno ragrets.
If you saw the movie We’re the Millers you might remember the scene of the kid who has a big tattoo across this neck that says “No Ragrets” in capital letters. He said it was his credo, and when asked if he had any regrets, he replied, “Nope, not at all.” “Not even one?” the […]
Read Moreepic fail and voices to listen to.
I spent last week in North Carolina for some special events in several different communities (a few pictures and stories are on Facebook and Instagram and then speaking about Faith Shift and relationships at the Evolving Faith Conference, hosted by Rachel Held Evans and Sarah Bessey. It was an honor to be part of such an incredible […]
Read Morelearning these kinds of things at church.
Every summer at The Refuge we do a modified Sunday night format called “Summer Camp.” The idea is to focus on practical skills, community building, and a break from our regular Dinner Church format. Over the years we’ve done all kinds of different things ranging from the basic skills of friendship to becoming people of […]
Read Morenarcissists are gonna narcissist.
I haven’t written much this summer, even though I didn’t take an official break like I have in the past. It’s been a huge season for our family, with my dad’s death, graduating 3 of our 5 kids from college or high school and launching them into the world, refuge community life, and an amazing […]
Read Morehealthier people make healthier groups make healthier systems.
Over two decades of ministry I have consistently heard the same response from a wide array of church leaders from top to bottom (mainly male, but not always): “Kathy, why do you have to be so focused on healing and recovery stuff? It’s really not what people want.” Actually, I am greatly minimizing their words […]
Read Morenevertheless, we persisted.
It’s a new year. And goodness gracious, do I know so many people who are happy to leave 2017 behind! It’s been a rough one for so many–politically, spiritually, practically, and on a host of different levels. It was a pretty tricky one for me, too. 2017 was filled with transition, hard work at The […]
Read Moreoutsiders re-dux.
In these last few days before Christmas, I’ve been reflecting on this crazy year. On the political bizarreness we are all in the midst of, the stripping of benefits and protections for children while those on the top line their pockets, the reality of our systems being tilted toward undistributed power, the ongoing division within […]
Read Moreits all one big fat paradox.
We’re smack in the middle of Advent and I haven’t written anything since Thanksgiving week. That’s because the day after Thanksgiving we found out that my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Since then, we were able to move him to Colorado to spend this last season of life with us in our home surrounded […]
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