Five and a half weeks ago I was supposed to be in the Pacific Northwest for two Practicing events in Portland and Washington. I was so excited because not only would I get to process some of the content in Practicing: Changing Yourself to Change the World with people in real life workshop-style (my favorite […]Read More
grief & global pandemics & extenuating circumstances
If we were together in real life right now the first thing I’d want to do is give you a hug. In less than a week, hugs have become a sparse commodity as we’ve entered into what feels like an alternate reality–but is very, very real. 4 ½ months into grieving the loss of our Jared, […]Read More
the practice of grieving and living at the same time.
When you cry every single day for 100 days, it’s definitely hard on the soul, especially when you look toward the next 100 days and realize that it’s just the way life is going to be now. We’re learning how to live with it. We are getting more used to going from crying to laughing […]Read More
when Christmas is hard…
Blogging has been on the back-burner for me in this past season, and I miss you guys! I just haven’t been in the right head space to write, and honestly, waking up to hearing the realities of another mass shooting, this one at a disability center, just makes me so sick and all words fall […]Read More
embracing the rhythm of life's friday-saturday-sundays.
Today is Holy Saturday, the day between the death of Jesus and the resurrection. It’s the day that most of us want to skip over, the part that so rarely gets acknowledged, especially on a day of easter egg hunts and shining blue skies. I originally posted this 7 years ago (crazy how fast time […]Read More
depression, a natural part of grief
in his book a grief observed CS lewis says this about grief: “no one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. i am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. the same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. i keep on swallowing. at other times it feels like […]Read More
bargaining: the what if's and if only's
we’re on day 3 of grief week and i have appreciated the comments & emails & thoughts that this has stirred up in different ways. if you are just joining us, we started with denial. then yesterday was a look into anger. today, we move into the third stage that is part of any grieving […]Read More
grief week: it starts with denial
well, exactly a year ago i said i was going to do a one week series called “grief week”, centered on the 5 stages of grief that can be part of church and life losses alike. then a friend from the refuge died suddenly in a tragic accident and i decided to start my summer […]Read More
“every time there are losses there are choices to make. you choose to live your losses as passages to anger, blame, hatred, depression, and resentment, or you choose to let these losses be passages to something new, something wider, something deeper…” – henri nouwen * * * * * i came across this nouwen […]Read More