yesterday i shared some things to remember when we are in the midst of a spiritual shift. one thing i want to remind everyone–no matter how hard we try, we can’t make certain people fully understand. at the same time, i think sometimes people are just at a total loss on how to respond. our […]
Read Morewhatever you do, don't let them take your faith.
almost exactly 7 years ago i lost my job as a pastor on a mega-church staff. it was one of the craziest, weirdest, surreal, dysfunctional experiences of my life and there are some days where i still shake my head and wonder “did that really happen?” but oh, it sure did. it was ugly & […]
Read Moreformation friday: when we're mad at God
* formation friday has kind of become formation saturday. or now maybe even sunday. that’s just the way it goes sometimes. i decided this one is maybe perfect for sunday–a day when some aren’t in church because we’re mad at God or are sitting in church feeling some of these things with nowhere to say […]
Read Morewhat it's like…to get kicked out of church
today is the first post in a series of posts i’ll share over the next month or so called “what it’s like…” i am grateful for the many brave and honest friends who are journeying through all kinds of tricky places in their lives, spiritually, emotionally, practically. one of my #1 most favorite songs is […]
Read Moreformation friday: a shifters prayer
* small blog tweaks continue. starting this friday i’m going to try to share some kind of spiritual reflection-formation-exercise piece. like anything here, some of you might like it, others might not find it helpful. for me, i always need intention & space, no matter how short or simple, to help me continually turn my heart […]
Read Morecynicism, skepticism, optimism, realism (and the power of hope)
it’s good to be back! those 5 weeks flew by! i missed you here, but it’s been so great to be off-line for a while and enjoy summer with my kids (i’ve got 5 of them home right now so it’s nuts around here but really fun) & a little lighter refuge schedule. so much […]
Read Morea more honest theology.
“for my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. – isaiah 55:8-9 * * * * * even though I find a lot of things in the Bible confusing, i have always […]
Read More10 things to remember when you're healing from faith shifts
if you’re one of those people who are healing from church & faith shifts, you know how raw and weird the process can be. rebuilding after deconstructing addresses some of this, but i wanted to add a few more posts to the series over the next few months because there are so many layers to this […]
Read Moreon becoming less divided.
“in an effort to not be a divisive woman, i became a divided woman” – pam hogeweide, at the unladylike: resisting the injustice of inequality in the church event at the refuge this past friday night. * * * * * in an effort to not be a divisive woman, i became a divided woman. oh […]
Read Morerebuilding is possible: a little hope for deconstruction
when i originally had this idea for a rebuilding after deconstructing series, i didn’t know exactly what it would be like. i just knew i wanted to write what was on my heart and see what happened. i have so appreciated all of the comments & honesty & the lovely new people i have met […]
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