Can you say “vulnerability hangover?” Brene Brown talks about them and at The Refuge we joke about them, and let me just tell you–I have a big fat one right now. When I first saw the clip online from my conversation on The Work of the People, I could feel it in my stomach. That […]
Read Moreit's here!
Yes, finally! Whew! After months and months of forming the project, gathering stories, writing, editing, re-editing, and production, Faith Shift: Finding Your Way Forward When Everything You Believe is Coming Part is out! It’s a messy & surreal process, especially on top of a lot of kids & the refuge & our crazy life. But […]
Read Morewhen we're spiritually hangry.
When I was last visiting my daughter in New York she started getting cranky because we hadn’t eaten and been walking all over town forever. She said, “Mommmmm, Feed me! I’m getting hangry!” I get angry sometimes, too, when I’m hungry. It’s that desperate feeling like I better get some food now before I go […]
Read Morerest, sheloves, blogs, faith shifts & summer.
it’s july 1st. we just got back from dropping our #3 off at college on the east coast for his summer-start and we are tired & sad & happy & proud & missing him already. as i mentioned last week, after a wild and full week of grief, i am going to be taking 2 […]
Read Moreacceptance: letting go again and again
denial, anger, bargaining, depression. the first four stages of grief are filled with raw and real feelings and many “i don’t knows.” as i said earlier, these stages are so not linear and we cycle through them over and over again throughout time. i like to think we bump into them at a difference place […]
Read Moredepression, a natural part of grief
in his book a grief observed CS lewis says this about grief: “no one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. i am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. the same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. i keep on swallowing. at other times it feels like […]
Read Morebargaining: the what if's and if only's
we’re on day 3 of grief week and i have appreciated the comments & emails & thoughts that this has stirred up in different ways. if you are just joining us, we started with denial. then yesterday was a look into anger. today, we move into the third stage that is part of any grieving […]
Read Moregrief week: anger
it’s grief week around here, and there are a few things i wanted to mention as we continue through the 5 stages of grief for these 5 days: 1. in life, these stages take months & years and are messy & weird. 5 little blog posts about them can minimize this reality and i wanted […]
Read More"never say never"
june’s synchroblog is centered on “if i could tell myself one thing.” what advice we would give ourselves if we could go back 20 years? what do we know now that we wish we knew then? what is one thing that would have been helpful to consider? come back and check out the link list that […]
Read Morepost-traumatic church syndrome is Real (and worthy of a capital letter)
there’s a new book coming out later this year by reba riley called “post-traumatic church syndrome: a humorous memoir of healing, hope, and 30 religions before 30”. i don’t know much about the book yet, but i am really looking forward to reading it. i do know that the facebook group called “post-traumatic church syndrome” has […]
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