* this is the final post in this series related to cultivating healthy friendship. the other posts are: mind-reading, assumptions, and saying our crazy stuff out loud, safety & boundaries aren’t dumb psychology words, conflict is good (even though most of us hate it), and learning to let go. it’s been fun for me to re-cap […]
Read Morefriendship: learning to let go
* this is the 4th post of highlights from our sacred friendship summer camp, practical ideas for becoming better friends. you can look back on the past few days to see the other posts; they are centered on the crazy stuff in our heads, safety & boundaries, and conflict. * * * * one […]
Read Morefriendship: conflict is good (even though most of us hate it)
* this is part 3 from the refuge’s sacred friendship summer camp. the questions in bold are ones we somehow talked about together at our gathering or in the homework. * * * * * some of us are really good at navigating conflict in relationships, but many of us hate conflict. look at a […]
Read Morefriendship: safety & boundaries aren't dumb psychology words
* this is the next post from friendship summer camp. it’s interesting that even as i share these here i can hear a voice that says “where’s the scripture in here? are we really going to talk about psychology stuff? come on, let’s talk about theology and church instead!” (hmm, mind-reading?). but i will hold […]
Read Morefriendship: mind-reading, assumptions & saying-our-crazy-stuff-out-loud
* thanks for bearing with me while i archived a bunch of guest posts last week. i’m still waiting to hear back about my laptop and whether they could retrieve my data so here’s to hope. this week i’m going to be sharing 5 simple posts from the refuge’s sacred friendship summer camp that we […]
Read Morefriendship heals.
“i no longer call you my servants, i call you my friends” – Jesus in april i was honored to be part of the first sacred friendship gathering in chicago, coordinated by my friend dan brennan, who is a brave & amazing advocate for cross-gender friendships. when i got home from the gathering, i entered into […]
Read Morealongside
the refuge turns 6 years old this month! it’s so hard to believe. some days it seems like yesterday and other days it feels like decades ago. there are many things to celebrate about the past 6 years. i continue to learn more than i ever bargained for about God, life, love, friendship, and leadership. […]
Read Morepracticing friendship
* this is part 2 to the last post: let’s be friends. oh wait, we don’t know how to! i wish learning new things were as easy as taking a class, watching a youtube instructional video, or reading the perfect how-to book that provides all of the answers. for fixing kitchen sinks, it probably works. […]
Read Morelet's be friends. oh wait, we don't know how to!
“there is nothing on this earth to be more prized than true friendship.” – st. thomas aquinas remember that book, “all i ever needed i learned in kindergarten”? sure, some of what we learned when we were five would be helpful to us as grownups. but i’m also going to make a supposition that even […]
Read Moreover, under, beside
“there is always warfare in our hearts; there is always the struggle between pride and humility, hatred and love, forgiveness and the refusal to forgive, truth and the concealment of truth, openness and closedness. each one of us is walking in that passage towards liberation, growing on the journey towards wholeness and healing…” – jean […]
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