A few nights ago Jose and I were overseas visiting our daughter, an army dentist. We had a long conversation about misogyny, patriarchy, power, and the realities women face just for being…women. No matter our ages, my experience continues to be that we all have so many hard stories. For me, the deepest pain is […]Read More
a peace prayer for political trauma
In the United States this week, tensions are running high, fear is running deep. Last night as I was going to bed I remembered a moment from 3+ years ago when I was at a multi-faith leaders gathering at the Colorado Legislature and one of my favorite representatives, Joe Salazar, shared how he would stop […]Read More
some things i haven’t said.
Next week marks one year without our wild and beautiful and creative and passionate and incredible son here on this earth. At the mom’s grief group that I’ve been going to these past few months, I gleaned some wisdom we’ve been trying to hold on to as October 28th approaches—often, the anticipation of the big dates are […]Read More
survival of the fittest.
This week I got a beautiful letter from my friend who has been in prison for 7 years. We write now and then, and he shared that all 200 inmates in his unit have tested positive for COVID and 11 have died so far. As I read his tender and poignant words, I thought about […]Read More
the pervasive patriarchy problem
This post was swirling around in my head last fall and on the day that my son died I had just put the finishing touches on it and was getting ready to hit “publish.” Then my doorbell rang and the police came to share the worst possible news a parent can ever receive, and we’re […]Read More
an unhappy july 4th
Today is July 4th, celebrated as Independence Day in the United States, a symbol of our independent spirit, breaking free from the British empire, and that start of our democracy and life as a nation. “Happy 4th” is not rolling off many of our lips very easily this year (or maybe ever). Kids in cages. Immigration round-ups. […]Read More
narcissists are gonna narcissist.
I haven’t written much this summer, even though I didn’t take an official break like I have in the past. It’s been a huge season for our family, with my dad’s death, graduating 3 of our 5 kids from college or high school and launching them into the world, refuge community life, and an amazing […]Read More
surviving this presidency.
Tomorrow marks exactly 1 year since Donald Trump was sworn into the office of the President of the United States of America. I remember the day well because I was waiting at Panera Bread for a meeting and saw the speech with no sound on the TV that was mounted on the wall. I read […]Read More
5 reasons we need more women leading in the world.
“We are all meant to be mothers of God…for God is always needing to be born.” ~ Meister Eckhardt Last month we had our Blue Christmas gathering at The Refuge. A contemplative space, Refuge friends created different stations to engage with different aspects of a season that can be hard for so many in different […]Read More
Yet another mass shooting has rocked us this weekend. Our hearts are still reeling from Las Vegas and another one slams us, this time at a church in TX. Our Facebook feeds will be filled with different perspectives on guns and we’ll go through the cycle of grief yet again. Horror, shock, anger, and “We […]Read More