This post was swirling around in my head last fall and on the day that my son died I had just put the finishing touches on it and was getting ready to hit “publish.” Then my doorbell rang and the police came to share the worst possible news a parent can ever receive, and we’re […]Read More
rising together again & again
Today is International Women’s Day 2019. I didn’t have time to write something new but I made some tweaks to this one from a few years ago. We rise together. Today I’m always reminded how grateful I am for the strong, amazing, beautiful, vulnerable, wise, compassionate, humble, tenacious, resilient, courageous women I know. I’m also […]Read More
equality is much more than giving someone a microphone.
It’s been a bit since I’ve blogged here. My dad died on April 16th, and it’s been a wild season of living into that new reality in the midst of so many other celebrations with our kids and life. I wrote about my dad for SheLoves for May—Golden Repair—so you can read more there. The […]Read More
from standing tall to on the floor: conversations on patriarchy.
Years ago a friend from The Refuge hosted a Listening Party for Christian men to listen to a panel of women on our experiences as female leaders. It was a brave thing to pull together. We looked forward to having a space to share our experiences and be heard by our Christian brothers. The only […]Read More
5 reasons we need more women leading in the world.
“We are all meant to be mothers of God…for God is always needing to be born.” ~ Meister Eckhardt Last month we had our Blue Christmas gathering at The Refuge. A contemplative space, Refuge friends created different stations to engage with different aspects of a season that can be hard for so many in different […]Read More
there are lots of ways to mother (and the world sure needs it right now)
It’s Mother’s Day in the USA today, the time where a bunch of women feel special and extra-loved, and another group of women often don’t. Like so many other holidays, many who feel great about it sometimes forget that there are others who are aching. Church is extra sucky if they make all the mothers stand […]Read More
Today is International Women’s Day. You all know I am a passionate advocate for women and write about it all the time here. Our equality is all tied up together. Unless we’re all free, none of us are free, and it’s important to always remind ourselves that well behaved women won’t change the church (or history). Equality is […]Read More
my unsolicited advice
For almost 9 years I’ve been writing my guts out about church and faith and life and all my dreams of what could be. Despite the vulnerability and what it’s cost me in certain circles, I’m inspired by the incredible people I’ve met over the years through this blog who are changing systems that need changing, […]Read More
“Are we still talking about women’s equality in the church? Really? In the year 2016?” Once in a while I have someone say that to me. The answer is always the same: “Yes, unfortunately, we still are.” Because while we’ve come a long way and there’s a lot to celebrate, we’ve still got a long […]Read More
Oh, it’s not worth rocking the boat about. It’s not that big of a deal. They’re doing the best they can. They aren’t going to change anyway. I don’t want them to think bad of me. I don’t want them to think I’m bitchy or petty. I don’t want them to stop respecting me. I […]Read More