this past weekend i was in a conversation with some of my dear friends that i consider kindred spirits because we are all, in some shape or form, “ex-good-christian-women.” for all kinds of reasons, we no longer fit the mold we used to try so hard to conform to. these are courageous beautiful women who don’t just long for greater freedom but […]
Read More"auntie kathy, are you sure it's not wrong for you to be a pastor?"
well here’s a sincere email i received last week from my 14 year old niece. i got permission from her to share it on this blog so don’t feel like i’m violating some private conversation. i thought it was too important, telling, to just keep between her and i and if it helps challenge us a little, well, […]
Read Moreunbind her
i spent the past couple of days in downtown denver at a women’s event that some dear women i know put together called woman come forth. i run in weird diverse circles. i have my wild and crazy emerging friends, my conservative evangelical friends, my don’t-go-to-church-and-don’t-plan-to-anymore friends, my recovery friends, my eclecic refuge friends, my i-have-had-bad-experiences-with-christians-but-i-kind-of-like-you friends, […]
Read Morethe tortoise and the hare
remember this aesop’s fable? with five kids i have read my share over the years…the stories are really timeless and profound in more ways than one. a few weeks ago the story of the tortoise and the hare came back onto my scan, and i have been thinking about it a lot. at our house of refuge […]
Read Morefaith & politics: my journey
imagine that? for years, honestly, i acted like i was 100% sure that God was a republican (a great quote i was reminded of this week by anne lamott: “we can be pretty certain we’ve created God in our own image if he hates all the same people we do.” thanks, jonathan) oh, how that was me! […]
Read Moreigniting the ember: emerging women finding their voice
“women have been taught that for us, the earth is flat, and that if we venture out, we will fall off the edge” – author unknown i’ve discovered the world is round. i have survived my venture out (so far) and although it feels like i have fallen off the cliff, i have found there really is solid […]
Read Moremore than the mess
the picture on the left are cups are on my bathroom counter. and no, they’re not for some science experiment i’m doing with my kids. they’ve been there for over a week. jose has been seeing how many days it will take before i actually do something about them and the funny thing is that […]
Read MoreMOMFB – making other mommies feel better
ah, in this picture we look so neat and tidy. all my little j’s–jared, jamison, josh, jose (who helped create these beautiful babes), julia, and jonas. so squared away. so on top of life. looks can be deceiving. don’t for a minute think that a 10 second snapshot captures reality. just take one step into […]
Read More5.4.07 from xgcw…don't go back to sleep!
i used to always say “ignorance is bliss”…i don’t believe it’s true, but i do sometimes wish my eyes hadn’t ever opened to the truth and reality of my life and crazy patterns and true need for God. life was so much easier when i was in denial! of course it wasn’t easier…it stunk, but […]
Read More3.19.07 from xgcw….get over it
i had someone tell me last week that i needed to “get over it.” i need to get over my hurt and pain related to the white, suburban evangelical megachurch and move on. i read the words several times and wanted to scream and shout at the top of my lungs “don’t you think i […]
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