the new conspirators

kathyescobar church stuff, dreams, equality, women in ministry Leave a Comment

i saw information on this conference a while back and was immediately intrigued.   i loved the the idea of conspiring new ways of living out our faith, the thoughts of the conversations that people would be having there about so many things i highly value.   i really wanted to try to pull off going but wasn’t sure if it was possible for all kinds of reasons.  then a few weeks ago i got an email from julie clawson, who moderates the emerging women’s blog and copastors via christus in the chicago area, asking …

a community where men cry

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, the refuge 7 Comments

i am not into talking that much about the differences between men and women.  in fact, i rarely, if ever, do because i just lean on the bottom line, that we are human beings and both essentially need the same things.  yes, of course inside we might be wired a little differently emotionally, but i hate the stereotypes and the way writers pigeon hole men and women:  “men just want respect, women just need love” “men are from mars and women are from venus” “men want the facts, women …

why prepositions matter

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, relationships, spiritual formation, the refuge 11 Comments

my friends know a lot about incarnational relationships.  in the trenches at milehigh ministries, they are passionate about all the same stuff i am.   a few weeks ago they facilitated our sunday refuge gathering and shared about the spiritual discipline of incarnational relationships.  the official word in the richard foster books would be “service and submission” but we thought we’d take a little different angle.  to us, in what we are committed to living out together at the refuge, serving & submitting is really about living incarnationally …

a little re-post here, a little link there

kathyescobar church stuff, doesn't really go anywhere else, spiritual formation, the fam, the refuge 8 Comments

instead of re-creating the wheel, i thought i’d just pass on a few other posts from the refuge and the collage workshop i went to this past weekend.   the refuge post is about some of the marks of authentic community & some of the things we are passionate about. you can check it out here. jenny wrote about the collage workshop that the refuge hosted on saturday.  she has some good pictures you can check out here.  it was 3 hours of therapy for $5!!  so good.  great company …

when one of us hurts, we all hurt

kathyescobar equality, injustice 19 Comments

“there may be times when we are powerless to prevent injustice, but there must never be a time when we fail to protest.” – elie wiesel this past weekend i finished reading a thousand splendid suns by khaled hosseini.  whoa.  i had read the kite runner and seen the movie over christmas.   both of them were beautiful and i had heard that this new story was even harder, more painful.   well i can vouch for that being absolutely true!   a thousand splendid suns focuses in on the lives of …

the power of the ordinary

kathyescobar church stuff, dreams, healing, jesus is cool, spiritual formation 3 Comments

this past week i stumbled on a quote at my friend makeesha’s blog by shane claiborne (one of my favorite voices for change in the kingdom of God). claiborne said”:  “get ready, people, God has prepared you for something really, really small!” oh i know that will really get the goats of so many people who believe the spiritual life is about moving mountains.  i am not discounting the importance of big dreams.  but what i have found is that many many people believe that because they …

more than the mess

kathyescobar ex good christian women, healing, spiritual formation 9 Comments

  the picture on the left are cups are on my bathroom counter.  and no, they’re not for some science experiment i’m doing with my kids.  they’ve been there for over a week. jose has been seeing how many days it will take before i actually do something about them and the funny thing is that i just keep adding to them.  the dirty coffee cups & empty water glasses are multiplying right before our very eyes. and the fuzz, well, it’s starting to grow.   i don’t know …

praying when you can’t find your prayer beads or have taken the word “quiet time” out of your vocabulary

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i am not a big pray-er in the traditional sense.   i don’t spend specific time every day dedicated to prayer. i don’t call on God on behalf of people in a specific way using certain words.  i don’t have a “quiet time” at the same time, in the same way, in the same place like i used to years ago when i was a good Christian rule-follower.    i don’t look very faithful in my “prayer life” according to a lot of standards.  but i think that is because the religiosity of …