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hope for the election (when we really want to lay on the floor and weep)

kathyescobar dreams, incarnational 0 Comments

There are only about 40 days left until the United States of America elects a new president.  Tonight is the first presidential debate and it’s sure to spark all kinds of media soundbites that will stir up an even greater frenzy. It’s bad out here, people. Tensions are high. People are scared. Confused. Angry. Sad. Worn out and exhausted by media-overload. There is a lot to be stirred up about: The polarization, the ugliness on both sides, the widening divides, the anger, the fear. But I …

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our codependent relationship with God

kathyescobar church stuff, doesn't really go anywhere else, ex good christian women, healing, identity 5 Comments

Since I entered into recovery a big chunk of years ago, I came face to face with the realities of my co-dependency. As an adult child of an alcoholic, a 2 on the Enneagram, a pastor, and dyed-in-the-wool people pleaser, I pretty much hit codependency on all cylinders! The truth is most of us are codependent in some way, and it’s not just if we’re in relationship with addicts. All our control and addiction issues have their roots in codependency; it’s part of the human condition. Melody …

youre-not-alone-in-the-loneliness

the great loneliness.

kathyescobar down we go, faith shifts 37 Comments

Recently I was at a very large gathering of men and women around the US and abroad who deeply care about many similar things I care about. I love much of their work. But as I sat in the opening session and listened to the music and the prayers and the language and the rah-rah I felt this overwhelming sense of deep, weird, in-my-bones loneliness. In the past, the “container” would have really resonated. I would have liked the songs and the wow and the excitement …

you-cant-have-mutuality-without-equality

equality comes before mutuality.

kathyescobar dreams, equality, ex good christian women, incarnational, leadership 0 Comments

A long while back a Christian blogger wrote a thoughtful response to something I had written about women’s equality in church leadership and said he’d like to hear more about “mutuality” and not just “equality. I replied, “Me, too!” I love absolutely everything about mutuality. In fact, it’s one of my highest values and deepest needs. It means mutual dependence, reciprocity. To me, mutuality is the fullest expression of the kingdom of God. No one over or under another but alongside, mutually submitting to one another, …

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why i’m still in.

kathyescobar blog, church stuff, dreams, equality, faith shifts, the refuge 0 Comments

I’m back! It took me a while! September 1st came and went but I am happy to be back in this space again for this next season. It is always good for me to not think in blog for a few months and as much as it’s hard for me to stop, I have come to value the importance of an intentional break every summer. As a lot of you know, this summer got off to a very bumpy start with transitions at The Refuge and I …

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breaks are good (puppies are too).

kathyescobar blog, healing 5 Comments

A chunk of years ago I started taking a month of blogging in the summer; then it was two months, and for the last few years it’s been three. It’s always been a good decision for my soul. This year, I need it more than ever.  Even though in general I haven’t blogged as much this past season, and my hope of signing off June 1st slipped away with things transitioning at The Refuge. So I decided to wait a little longer. I’m glad I did …

hope prevails

transformation hurts.

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, the refuge 4 Comments

Oh, it’s been a brutal week around here and I am just starting to come up for air. Many of you reading already connect on Facebook but I wanted to make sure and share this here, too. In the middle of celebrating The Refuge’s 10 Year Anniversary and many other amazing things that have been happening in our community, there’s been a back story conversation related to gay weddings in the Refuge facility. Even though we settled this years ago, agreeing to be a community that lived …

no body but ours

no body but ours.

kathyescobar church stuff, equality, faith shifts, healing, incarnational, injustice 7 Comments

A whole lot of years ago, in the 1500’s, St. Teresa of Avila wrote this: Christ Has No Body Christ has no body but yours, No hands, no feet on earth but yours, Yours are the eyes with which he looks Compassion on this world, Yours are the feet with which he walks to do good, Yours are the hands, with which he blesses all the world. Yours are the hands, yours are the feet, Yours are the eyes, you are his body. Christ has no …