from standing tall to on the floor: conversations on patriarchy.

kathyescobar crazy making, equality, ex good christian women, leadership, women in ministry 4 Comments

Years ago a friend from The Refuge hosted a Listening Party for Christian men to listen to a panel of women on our experiences as female leaders. It was a brave thing to pull together. We looked forward to having a space to share our experiences and be heard by our Christian brothers. The only problem was when we showed up, there were about 40 women in the room and 7 men. His efforts were incredibly sincere; the reality is that men just didn’t come. Listening …

healthier people make healthier groups make healthier systems.

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Over two decades of ministry I have consistently heard the same response from a wide array of church leaders from top to bottom (mainly male, but not always): “Kathy, why do you have to be so focused on healing and recovery stuff? It’s really not what people want.” Actually, I am greatly minimizing their words in that sentence. It’s actually been more like this: “People are sick of you talking about recovery or hearing addict’s stories.” “When are your people going to get healed and start …

surviving this presidency.

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Tomorrow marks exactly 1 year since Donald Trump was sworn into the office of the President of the United States of America. I remember the day well because I was waiting at Panera Bread for a meeting and saw the speech with no sound on the TV that was mounted on the wall. I read the transcript while I was sitting there (my friend was late) and felt my heart constrict, my stomach sink, my shoulders tighten as reality set in. Pretty much all the things …

5 reasons we need more women leading in the world.

kathyescobar equality, ex good christian women, faith and politics, incarnational, women in ministry 3 Comments

“We are all meant to be mothers of God…for God is always needing to be born.” ~ Meister Eckhardt Last month we had our Blue Christmas gathering at The Refuge. A contemplative space, Refuge friends created different stations to engage with different aspects of a season that can be hard for so many in different ways. My favorite station was centered on images of Mary and Jesus in a wide variety of cultures. The reflection included the Christian mystic Meister Eckhardt’s words. Eckhardt (like other mystics), …

nevertheless, we persisted.

kathyescobar faith shifts, healing, incarnational 6 Comments

It’s a new year. And goodness gracious, do I know so many people who are happy to leave 2017 behind! It’s been a rough one for so many–politically, spiritually, practically, and on a host of different levels. It was a pretty tricky one for me, too. 2017 was filled with transition, hard work at The Refuge to help nurture a healthier infrastructure, all sort of unexpected “omg, really?” moments and circumstances, and a boatload of angst watching the people and values I care about being violated …

outsiders re-dux.

kathyescobar advent & lent, ex good christian women, faith shifts, healing, incarnational 7 Comments

In these last few days before Christmas, I’ve been reflecting on this crazy year. On the political bizarreness we are all in the midst of, the stripping of benefits and protections for children while those on the top line their pockets, the reality of our systems being tilted toward undistributed power, the ongoing division within Christianity that is rocking not just “the church” system but countless hearts and souls as well. I am continually struck with the tension between those in power and the margins. When …

its all one big fat paradox.

kathyescobar advent & lent, healing, incarnational, the fam 7 Comments

We’re smack in the middle of Advent and I haven’t written anything since Thanksgiving week. That’s because the day after Thanksgiving we found out that my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Since then, we were able to move him to Colorado to spend this last season of life with us in our home surrounded by kids and dogs and Escobar chaos. We are so grateful. Really, things are pretty sweet around here. He is getting settled in and has care coming in. The Refuge community …

a more honest thanksgiving.

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I love Thanksgiving. It’s always been such a sweet holiday for us. We have a fun Refuge family feast the Sunday before Thanksgiving that warms my soul. My adult kids come home from across the USA. We see a bunch of movies together and eat a lot of junk food. On Thanksgiving day we play flag football and host a fun and sweet dinner for everyone who needs a place to be. We cut down our Christmas tree the day after and eat some more. Then …