grief and Good: a good friday reflection.

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Today is Good Friday. No matter how much my faith has shifted over the years, I still treasure the movement of Friday-Saturday-Sunday in the life of Jesus and the complicated, messy, beautiful, unexpected story of Hope that we celebrate on Easter. After three visits to Israel and Palestine over the past several years, Holy Week has become much more meaningful to me—mostly way beyond words. I’ve written so many things over the years for these special days that I didn’t think I’d share anything new this year. …

faith shift: hope & healing, an online group (and a few other things)

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I have been out of the groove of blogging this season, but it’s been for good reason! Almost exactly a year ago, after some hard and good community work, we transitioned The Refuge’s leadership and community life structures to make it more sustainable as we dreamed for our next 10 years together; a year later it has been fun to see it in action and I have felt a new freedom and lightness as a co-cultivator of our life together. It has also opened up some …

new days are dawning: international women’s day 2018

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I am sitting here in my living room watching the sun come up in beautiful Arvada, Colorado.  The skies here are so pretty. After over 20 years of living in Denver I still have so many days where the sunrises and sunsets make me say out loud, “God, that is beautiful.” I am reflecting on International Women’s Day today–March 8th–the day where we celebrate the social, economic, cultural and political achievement of women. I have heard rumblings over the years of “Why should women have a day?”, …

from standing tall to on the floor: conversations on patriarchy.

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Years ago a friend from The Refuge hosted a Listening Party for Christian men to listen to a panel of women on our experiences as female leaders. It was a brave thing to pull together. We looked forward to having a space to share our experiences and be heard by our Christian brothers. The only problem was when we showed up, there were about 40 women in the room and 7 men. His efforts were incredibly sincere; the reality is that men just didn’t come. Listening …

healthier people make healthier groups make healthier systems.

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Over two decades of ministry I have consistently heard the same response from a wide array of church leaders from top to bottom (mainly male, but not always): “Kathy, why do you have to be so focused on healing and recovery stuff? It’s really not what people want.” Actually, I am greatly minimizing their words in that sentence. It’s actually been more like this: “People are sick of you talking about recovery or hearing addict’s stories.” “When are your people going to get healed and start …

surviving this presidency.

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Tomorrow marks exactly 1 year since Donald Trump was sworn into the office of the President of the United States of America. I remember the day well because I was waiting at Panera Bread for a meeting and saw the speech with no sound on the TV that was mounted on the wall. I read the transcript while I was sitting there (my friend was late) and felt my heart constrict, my stomach sink, my shoulders tighten as reality set in. Pretty much all the things …

5 reasons we need more women leading in the world.

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“We are all meant to be mothers of God…for God is always needing to be born.” ~ Meister Eckhardt Last month we had our Blue Christmas gathering at The Refuge. A contemplative space, Refuge friends created different stations to engage with different aspects of a season that can be hard for so many in different ways. My favorite station was centered on images of Mary and Jesus in a wide variety of cultures. The reflection included the Christian mystic Meister Eckhardt’s words. Eckhardt (like other mystics), …

nevertheless, we persisted.

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It’s a new year. And goodness gracious, do I know so many people who are happy to leave 2017 behind! It’s been a rough one for so many–politically, spiritually, practically, and on a host of different levels. It was a pretty tricky one for me, too. 2017 was filled with transition, hard work at The Refuge to help nurture a healthier infrastructure, all sort of unexpected “omg, really?” moments and circumstances, and a boatload of angst watching the people and values I care about being violated …