what it’s like…to get sober from sexual addiction

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one of the things i’m most passionate about is creating safe spaces for people to be honest about their real stories. church is supposed to be the safest place on earth, the place where we can share the hardest parts of our lives and experience so that shame’s power can be broken and God’s healing can transform.  sexual addiction has tried to ruin a lot of men and women i know; what’s so beautiful, though, is that even though it has tried, it hasn’t won. it’s …

what it’s like…to get divorced in church

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* this is part of a recent series called what it’s like.  each person sharing in these interviews have unique experiences but so many of the themes are similar; it’s a  chance to learn and consider what some of these circumstances really feel like.    in the 22 years i have been married and in the church i have seen a lot of my friends go through the gut-wrenching reality of getting divorced.  it’s such a painful thing for any person to go through.  in the …

what it’s like to…slip off the slope

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* this is part of a recent series called “what it’s like…”, interviews with people in all kinds of circumstances sharing what it feels like.  you can see the other posts so far here.   my guess is that a lot of you reading here have been told in some way, shape or form, that you might be treading dangerous ground because of your changing faith, that you are on a “slippery slope” and had better be careful.  i know many people who are in the …

what it’s like…to lose a job and try to feed your family.

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i do not know what it is like to be unemployed and try to feed my family, but unfortunately i do know a lot of people who do. it’s hard enough to lose a job with no christian baggage attached, but add that into the mix and it complicates it even further.  there are so many issues about men providing properly & what “success” means that complicate an already tricky situation.  meet my friend jason*, a pastor who lost his job last year and has been …

what it’s like…to have cancer

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here’s another installment in this series of interviews on “what it’s like”.  the other two so far are:  what it’s like to get kicked out of church & what it’s like to have a child come out as gay.  * * * * * i have changed the names for the “what it’s like” interviews for safety, but today’s installment is a little different. my friend from across the oceans, jo hilder, recently wrote a book about this particular topic so i asked her to be …