alongside

kathyescobar dreams, equality, friendship, healing, incarnational, leadership, relationships, the refuge 17 Comments

the refuge turns 6 years old this month!  it’s so hard to believe.  some days it seems like yesterday and other days it feels like decades ago. there are many things to celebrate about the past 6 years. i continue to learn more than i ever bargained for about God, life, love, friendship, and leadership. some days i still want to run for the hills, but i’m learning something here that i’m not sure i’d ever learn somewhere else. for me, one of the most important …

small is plenty

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this in 2010 but it’s been on my mind a lot lately, especially in so many conversations with others about dreams for new communities-ministries-passions-ideas. it’s easy to measure our dreams by other people’s measures and forget that small is plenty. * * * * * “get ready, God is preparing you for something really, really small” – shane claiborne i have always tended to do everything big in my life.  i never really set out to have 5 kids, but i am the one who had …

becoming better human beings

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in the first few years of the refuge there were days when i really just wanted to throw in the towel.  i often wonder why in the $*!^$&!(!)# i care so much about all of this.  really.  in the big scheme of things we are a little blip in the universe, just a teeny weeny pocket of love that is trying to scrape by and do the best we can.  in the life of church-planting cycles, we are survivors.  we have survived what many communities haven’t …

little pockets of freedom.

kathyescobar church stuff, equality, healing, incarnational, jesus is cool, the refuge 12 Comments

we’ve been talking a lot about wounds from the church at the refuge in preparation for our walking wounded gathering, which is this upcoming weekend in denver.  i am really looking forward to it & oh do we have some fun stuff planned!  we still have a little bit of room if you want to come & haven’t registered yet, do it today. as we’ve been preparing for it, it is has been interesting how much has been stirred up for me about church. as you …

5 years. 5 years? 5 years!

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this past weekend the refuge celebrated our 5 year birthday.  it’s really hard to believe that over 5 years have really passed.  when we first started, as so many of you know, we were beaten & bloody, armed only with some dreams for “what could be” and coming out of a rough experience from serving at a mega-church.   but we didn’t give up.  we showed up as best we could in real relationship with each other & slogged our way through a path toward healing. i …

because sometimes we forget

kathyescobar healing, identity, incarnational, spiritual formation, the refuge 10 Comments

i always say that i think faith community–whatever form it takes–should be a place to practice loving and being loved by God, others, and ourselves.  these things don’t come naturally for many of us and so we need a training ground, a place to learn and experiment, so we can continue to form into more loving people, a deeper and brighter reflection of Christ in this world. i believe the image of God is deeply embedded in all human beings.  it’s in our core DNA.  what …

gratitude heals

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* i wrote this post in november 2009 for the refuge blog.  last night at our house of refuge, my friend shared how gratitude helps her connect with God.  it made me think of this blog post & how true it is–gratitude does heal. right now, i am in a terribly difficult season physically & emotionally (chronic pain wears you down); i can easily dwell on all the things that “aren’t” and slide down the slippery slope into despair.  last night before i went to bed …