reality.

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the other night at the refuge a friend slipped me a vodka bottle and said, “here, i really wanted to drink it but i know it’ll just mess things up more.” i was so proud of her and promptly went to the bathroom and dumped it out (i am really good at throwing out all kinds of drugs & alcohol & porn & razor blades & weird-things-people-need-to-get-rid-of-to-stay-safe). i have some really funny stories of things i hope and prayed a policeman would never pull me over …

formation friday: touchstones

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a touchstone: a test or criterion for determining the quality or genuineness of a thing. on wednesday night at our house of refuge, my lovely and wise friend daisha facilitated a beautiful and simple evening centered on the idea of faith touchstones. not everyone has experienced a significant faith shift (although it sure seems a lot of us have!) but the reality is that all of us experience times where we need something real, deep, and sustaining to come back to. we need a powerful truth that …

life, God…God, life

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immersed in the practice of creating, all things that exist were birthed in Him. His breath filled all things with a living, breathing light–a light that thrives in the depths of darkness, blazes through murky bottoms.  it cannot and will not be quenched.” – john 1:3-5, the voice last week i was out on a walk by myself, trying to get some sanity back, pondering why certain simple things at the refuge seem to sometimes “work” better than others. what i mean by that is why …

formation friday: transitions

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it’s been a while since i’ve written a formation friday.  oh, how i wish there was a better way to capture some of the fun stuff we do at the refuge in different venues, but i can’t quite figure out a good system for that. maybe, someday. meanwhile, will just have to share what i can when i can.  in september we spent some time talking about transitions, considering the exodus story and the journey of the israelites out of egypt into the direction of the …

“just bring me a shot glass” & being ourselves in community.

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as someone whose mantra is “downward mobility,” i’m guessing it’s crossed some minds out here how i reconcile my life as part the refuge with my life that includes flying all over the world and doing all kinds of appearing-not-so-downwardly mobile things. it crosses my mind, too. it’s been quite a wild ride for me over the years, coming from a family with a single mom-working-her-tail-off-to-raise-her-three-kids-with-no-help, to going to one of the most affluent colleges in the country on as much financial aid as you can …

if you want to hear me ramble about church for an hour…

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last month i had a one hour conversation with chris yaw from churchnext, which is dedicated to resources & support to nurture healthy churches in all kinds of different ways. it seemed like some of the video was a little slow at the beginning but then it started to kick in, but you can always just do audio. it was fun, pretty much i just ramble about church for an hour, so it’s definitely not for everyone. my favorite parts are past the mid-point. if you …

noticing what is, not what isn’t.

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// i usually pace things out a little more here but i’m going out of town tomorrow for a week.  if i don’t get things up when they come, the moment sort of passes so sharing these while they’re fresh.  one more tomorrow & then back for summer and planning to try a few new things here on the blog to mix it up a bit! // * * * * * “few of us ever live in the present. we are forever anticipating what is …

cruise ships, sail boats & holey dinghies

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one of my friends calls the typical contemporary typical church-system “the big ship.”  they’re strong & powerful & plow through the ocean with confidence. they are dazzling and entertaining.  many of us have been on that ship in some way, shape or form, hanging out on the deck enjoying the ride called “church-as-we-knew-it”. but over time many of us have gone overboard. some of us have bailed out, some of us were thrown over the deck.  once in the water, some of us have been clinging …