redeeming old words (like “redeem”)

kathyescobar faith shifts, healing, spiritual formation 38 Comments

Oh, I’d love to know how many of you cringed when you read the word “redeem”? It seems like an additional hard part about some of our faith shifts is that particular words we used to love and appreciate have become ones we begin to avoid or cause us to twinge. For all kinds of reasons, certain words just stop working and just become too loaded. I recently had to enter into an online site where people were talking in extreme Christianese. I knew enough to brace …

“i’ll start my diet monday” and other unrealistic expectations.

kathyescobar healing, spiritual formation 8 Comments

There’s a joke in my family that when I die my headstone is going to read “Kathy ‘I’ll Start My Diet Monday’ Escobar”. It’s true, I can’t tell you how many weeks I have said, “Okay, just a few more days of eating crap and not working out because I’ll start my diet Monday.” And Monday morning I wake up and drink 2 glasses of water and make eggs instead of cereal and swear that i won’t have another carb all day but by dinnertime I’ve …

when we’re spiritually hangry.

kathyescobar faith shifts, healing, just because i thought it was fun, spiritual formation 10 Comments

When I was last visiting my daughter in New York she started getting cranky because we hadn’t eaten and been walking all over town forever. She said, “Mommmmm, Feed me! I’m getting hangry!” I get angry sometimes, too, when I’m hungry. It’s that desperate feeling like I better get some food now before I go off the deep end. My husband, Jose, thinks it’s kind of funny but the truth is funny is not the word I would use to describe it in the moment. This …

the kingdom of God is like…

kathyescobar church stuff, incarnational, jesus is cool, just because i thought it was fun, spiritual formation, the refuge 10 Comments

way back when i said i was going to share more about what happens in our living room on wednesday nights at our house of refuge gathering, which has been happening since the beginning of the refuge in 2006.  i never seem to get around to it, but this week i thought i’d take a few minutes and share with everyone because it was such a simple & sweet idea and a great exercise to consider, no matter where everyone is in terms of life and …

40 days for wanderers, wonderers, and somehow-allergic-to-churchers

kathyescobar advent & lent, faith shifts, healing, just because i thought it was fun, spiritual formation 12 Comments

today is ash wednesday, the mark of the beginning of lent. for some, it’s a season that has sincere spiritual significance. for others, it’s just another time of a lot of prayers and posts on facebook that can feel annoying. and for others, there’s not really a big connection to lent in its traditional form but there is a desire to connect with God in some way that doesn’t feel trite, forced, or cold. when our faith has shifted and we’re not sure which end is …

breaking our american hearts

kathyescobar church stuff, incarnational, jesus is cool, spiritual formation, the refuge 5 Comments

this past friday night we hosted a theology camp called “the radical welcome of God: wisdom from benedictine spirituality.” two nuns from benet hill monastery shared their hearts & stories & practices with us. it was beautiful in more ways than i can count. my amazing friend & local spiritual director ellen haroutunian facilitated questions for the sisters and then we processed together and made a space for reflective time walking through 7 stations that represented the pillars of benedictine spirituality: community, humility, hospitality, reverence, stewardship/partnership, integration, and discernment.  …

10 field trips worth taking.

kathyescobar church stuff, incarnational, injustice, spiritual formation 5 Comments

everal years ago i wrote a post for an online magazine called “a field trip everyone should take” centered on some of my experiences at social services agencies.  it’s just so easy to say things like “well, those people just need to get a job….” or “they are lazy” or quickly end people to get services at some of these agencies and have no idea how truly complicated it is to even make it past the first form that needs to be filled out.  my premise …

one image

kathyescobar healing, just because i thought it was fun, spiritual formation, synchroblog 15 Comments

* this post is part of the january synchroblog, which is centered on new beginnings. i have loved partaking in the practice of “one word” for the past few years; even though i am one of those people who starts out strong and loses steam by about april, i appreciate the intention and love hearing other people’s words and hope for new beginnings, too!  at the bottom of this post is a link list of other bloggers writing on the same topic. // last year i was …