friendship: men & women can be friends, here’s a place to start

kathyescobar friendship, relationships, the refuge 4 Comments

* this is the final post in this series related to cultivating healthy friendship. the other posts are: mind-reading, assumptions, and saying our crazy stuff out loud, safety & boundaries aren’t dumb psychology words, conflict is good (even though most of us hate it), and learning to let go.  it’s been fun for me to re-cap some of what we practiced together and remember how worth it is to keep growing in loving friendship with others.   * * * * * i am so thankful to …

friendship: learning to let go

kathyescobar friendship, relationships, the refuge 9 Comments

* this is the 4th post of highlights from our sacred friendship summer camp, practical ideas for becoming better friends.   you can look back on the past few days to see the other posts; they are centered on the crazy stuff in our heads, safety & boundaries, and conflict.   * * * * one thing i’ve learned over the years is that every strength has a weakness.  and sometimes the stronger the strength, the stronger the weakness is on the other end.  one of my …

friendship: conflict is good (even though most of us hate it)

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* this is part 3 from the refuge’s sacred friendship summer camp. the questions in bold are ones we somehow talked about together at our gathering or in the homework.  * * * * * some of us are really good at navigating conflict in relationships, but many of us hate conflict.  look at a list of “adult children of alcoholics” and you will read my mail!   at the top of the list is avoiding conflict. for many of us, we haven’t had a lot …

friendship: safety & boundaries aren’t dumb psychology words

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* this is the next post from friendship summer camp.  it’s interesting that even as i share these here i can hear a voice that says “where’s the scripture in here? are we really going to talk about psychology stuff? come on, let’s talk about theology and church instead!” (hmm, mind-reading?).  but i will hold to what i keep learning–this stuff doesn’t drop out of the sky.  these skills help us become more loving human beings and i think that was always the idea! * * …

friendship: mind-reading, assumptions & saying-our-crazy-stuff-out-loud

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* thanks for bearing with me while i archived a bunch of guest posts last week.  i’m still waiting to hear back about my laptop and whether they could retrieve my data so here’s to hope.  this week i’m going to be sharing 5 simple posts from the refuge’s sacred friendship summer camp that we hosted on wednesday nights all summer. we had an awesome group of men & women participate and it was so fun!   i won’t be able to recapture the conversations but …