uncensored prayer

kathyescobar healing, spiritual formation 17 Comments

one thing that i’ve always struggled with over the years as a christian has been the emphasis on “prayer” looking a certain way and how many of us have always felt like we fall short.   i can’t tell you the amount of times i have either said or heard others say, “i am not that good of a pray-er.”  i said that for a long time, too, until i embraced that i might not pray like john or jane because i’m not john or jane, i’m …

out of the darkness: singleness & the church, part 2

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, out of the darkness 8 Comments

i did a series of conversations in 2009 and 2010 called out of the darkness.  it had honest stories from my friends on topics that often never get talked about in church. if you didn’t read them, here they are: self-injury brave thoughts from a former abuser hope & healing from sexual addiction the lingering damage of sexual abuse eating disorders the A word – abortion the untold story of abused men never underestimate the damage of spiritual abuse women struggle with sexual addictions, too singleness …

banned questions about the Bible

kathyescobar spiritual formation 9 Comments

i love the Bible. it is a beautiful, powerful, transforming book. it also can be a very confusing one.  sometimes people will say “it’s not confusing at all to me, it’s crystal clear” and even though i’m quick to judge their certainty, when i look back on my faith journey, i used to land there, too.  i respect for some it is still crystal clear.  and for me, the “because the Bible says so” is not a good enough answer anymore. so much of what we …

cross-gender friendships

kathyescobar crazy making, dreams, equality, friendship, healing, incarnational, relationships, spiritual formation 37 Comments

if you’ve been reading here for a while you know i am extremely passionate about cross-gender friendships and men and women learning how to be with each other, side by side, as friends– leading, loving, learning, growing, giving, practicing, sharing, connecting as equals.  we have terrible models for this, not only “in the church” but also in wider society.  sexualization & fear & power issues have really kept men and women from loving each other as friends.  we perpetuate the divide by keeping men in men’s …