we have a dream.

kathyescobar dreams, equality, incarnational, injustice, synchroblog 17 Comments

This month’s Synchroblog is centered on Race, Violence, and Why We Need to Talk About It. There’s a link list at the bottom of this post of some other bloggers also writing today. If I were going to recommend one post to read on this subject, read I Need to Say Something Entirely Different to White People on a Deeper Story. When I was thinking of what to write, this is what came to mind. I know the road ahead is long and hard and painful, …

10 tangible ways we can work toward equality in the church.

kathyescobar church stuff, equality, friendship, injustice, leadership, women in ministry 18 Comments

my dear friend & ministry partner recently attended a local leaders gathering and messaged me with a text that essentially said this:  “not one woman speaker, presenter, pray-er, anything-at-all-er. see, i am starting to notice it!”  i wrote him back, “yep, it’s real, and it sucks and thanks for noticing.” also this week i heard about this post by ed stetzer about his fear of being alone with a woman who wasn’t his wife;  it made me feel so sick and sad, to think how these commandments …

“i just don’t see how he could do that” & some thoughts on abuse

kathyescobar crazy making, healing, identity, incarnational, injustice 21 Comments

**warning: this post is about sexual abuse (and emotional, physical, and spiritual too) and so if you are extra sensitive to this topic, please know there could be possible triggers. abuse is one of the most damaging things that can happen to someone. and there’s never an excuse for it. young or old, male or female, or all of the different circumstances of where, when, and how the abuse happened don’t make a difference in its impact. once it happens, that person’s life is forever changed. i’ll …

10 field trips worth taking.

kathyescobar church stuff, incarnational, injustice, spiritual formation 5 Comments

everal years ago i wrote a post for an online magazine called “a field trip everyone should take” centered on some of my experiences at social services agencies.  it’s just so easy to say things like “well, those people just need to get a job….” or “they are lazy” or quickly end people to get services at some of these agencies and have no idea how truly complicated it is to even make it past the first form that needs to be filled out.  my premise …

making another’s pain in their heart our own.

kathyescobar equality, ex good christian women, incarnational, injustice, women in ministry 11 Comments

e got back last night from our fun adventure, celebrating my third kid’s high school graduation a little early.  the passport debacle was redeemed and we had a great time (and yes, will be getting the twins passports renewed this week). it really was a perfect & annoying test for my river image for 2013 & now 2014. we definitely rolled with it. on our trip i read one of the best books i’ve read in a while–the invention of wings by sue monk kidd.  i had no idea …

please, let’s get outraged about more important things

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, fundamentalism, incarnational, injustice, jesus is cool 44 Comments

i will start this post by saying i have never once watched an episode of duck dynasty. i do not know what it even really is, except for seeing the cards and trinkets at the store with their images plastered all over them and i have heard it is very popular. sometimes in these moments of social media craziness i don’t even want to write about contemporary conversations because they can be so silly and such a waste of time. but after some of the facebook …

justice is more than equality

kathyescobar equality, incarnational, injustice, synchroblog 14 Comments

*october’s syncroblogy–other bloggers writing on the same topic–is what is social justice, really? i’m way off on a blog groove these days, but this is a topic i really love.  i’ll post a link list tomorrow morning so you can can check out a variety of other posts on the same topic. * * * * * my dad was a true-blue hippie in berkeley during the 60’s 70’s. when it was his weekend to take me (my parents were divorced when i was 5) he …

abusive pastors & the crazy $(&*@#%! they get away with

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, injustice, leadership, rants 35 Comments

i know some really amazing pastors in this world–dedicated and humble men and women who love people so well and truly care about their congregations and groups. some have the official title “pastor”and some don’t. i wholeheartedly believe there are lots of ways to pastor that are not properly valued and so many people pastor and shepherd others without titles, money, or power. but there’s almost nothing worse to me than “pastors” who have created power structures that serve them and who take advantage of people’s …