life shifts: finding our way forward when everything changes

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When I wrote Faith Shift over 4 years ago my husband, Jose, read the draft manuscript. After he finished, he was really excited and said “The entire time I was reading it I kept thinking how much of this applies to life transitions, not just faith or church ones.” I was busy focusing on faith shift conversations and didn’t think too much about it until this past year when I noticed countless moments with people who were sharing other transitions—divorce, job changes, deaths, all-things-children, mental or physical …

when words elude us.

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“But let us not put our sights too high. We do not have to be saviors of the world! We are simply human beings, enfolded in weakness and in hope, called together to change our world one heart at a time. ” ~ Jean Vanier ***** I had other posts to go up this week, both here and at Patheos. I wrote them over the weekend, so proud of myself to actually be a few days ahead. Then I woke up yesterday, got my coffee, turned on …

back from a break & breaking old patterns.

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It’s been 3 months since I’ve blogged here, and I’m glad to get back in the groove this month (I miss rambling about things I like to ramble about–church, life, community, healing, faith shifts, justice, and equality!) I am not sure what things will look like exactly in this next season, blogging here for any and all things and also sharing over at Patheos Progressive Christian Channel on the realities of faith shifts. For now, I’m not going to worry about it too much and just share …

father’s day angst.

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It’s here tomorrow, yet another holiday that is great for all kinds of people and really hard for many others. I have written about all the major ones at this point–Christmas, Mother’s Day, Easter, and Father’s Day, too. But here we are again. Father’s Day always seems to seek up on us, and I didn’t want this day to go by without taking a pause and remembering that this day can create a lot of angst for people for all kinds of different reasons. But before I do …

5 things for 50.

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I turned 50 on Mother’s Day. 5-0. Half a century. 5 decades. For all you young people reading, you’re like 50 is o-l-d. For all you 50’s and up reading, you’re like “quit complaining.” I’m not complaining, really. It’s just a weird feeling and the 40’s did feel younger! Jose and my friends threw me an amazing dance party at The Refuge, and it truly was the best way to ring in a new decade. I haven’t had much time or head space to write, as …

there are lots of ways to mother (and the world sure needs it right now)

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It’s Mother’s Day in the USA today, the time where a bunch of women feel special and extra-loved, and another group of women often don’t. Like so many other holidays, many who feel great about it  sometimes forget that there are others who are aching. Church is extra sucky if they make all the mothers stand up and get a flower and you’re the one still sitting. In divorced families, the reality of what’s been lost creeps up.  Others have lost their mothers or significant women in …

the mother’s day ache.

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Mother’s Day is this Sunday. This year it also falls on my 50th birthday, which is kind of wild because I was also born on Mother’s Day. This upcoming Sunday is a happy day for a lot of women. Breakfast in bed, no chores, flowers, handmade cards. I never want to dismiss the awesomeness of mothers and that they get a day of extra-special love for all their hard work day in and day out. For me, with 5 kids,  I always get some more-than-usual-sweetness and …

we need mothers & fathers & daughters & sons & sisters & brothers.

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I’m on a bit of a power-of-community roll right now, revisiting some old posts that have been rattling around in my head.  To me, the purpose of community, “the church”, is to have a place, whatever that looks like, to learn to love God & others and to be loved by God & others. Like so many other things that matter in the kingdom of God, it doesn’t magically drop out of the sky. It comes through hard work invested in relationship–with God, with others, with ourselves. Over the …