its all one big fat paradox.

kathyescobar advent & lent, healing, incarnational, the fam 1 Comment

We’re smack in the middle of Advent and I haven’t written anything since Thanksgiving week. That’s because the day after Thanksgiving we found out that my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Since then, we were able to move him to Colorado to spend this last season of life with us in our home surrounded by kids and dogs and Escobar chaos. We are so grateful. Really, things are pretty sweet around here. He is getting settled in and has care coming in. The Refuge community …

underneath guns.

kathyescobar faith and politics, healing, incarnational, injustice 3 Comments

Yet another mass shooting has rocked us this weekend. Our hearts are still reeling from Las Vegas and another one slams us, this time at a church in TX. Our Facebook feeds will be filled with different perspectives on guns and we’ll go through the cycle of grief yet again. Horror, shock, anger, and “We can’t keep living this way” and then slide into next month where really, nothing changes. New gun laws aren’t going to be in place anytime soon. The NRA isn’t going to …

rebuilding after a life shift.

kathyescobar healing, spiritual formation 1 Comment

This is Part 2 an extension of Life Shift: Finding your Way Forward When Everything Changes. I am glad this idea has resonated and people have been able to find themselves in the rhythm of this story. If you need a little review, go read the first post. I wanted to spend a little time fleshing out the framework of Rebuilding after a major life shift. These particular movements are exactly the same as the ones in Faith Shift, and seem to be helpful in the …

life shifts: finding our way forward when everything changes

kathyescobar healing, identity, spiritual formation 0 Comments

When I wrote Faith Shift over 4 years ago my husband, Jose, read the draft manuscript. After he finished, he was really excited and said “The entire time I was reading it I kept thinking how much of this applies to life transitions, not just faith or church ones.” I was busy focusing on faith shift conversations and didn’t think too much about it until this past year when I noticed countless moments with people who were sharing other transitions—divorce, job changes, deaths, all-things-children, mental or physical …

when words elude us.

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“But let us not put our sights too high. We do not have to be saviors of the world! We are simply human beings, enfolded in weakness and in hope, called together to change our world one heart at a time. ” ~ Jean Vanier ***** I had other posts to go up this week, both here and at Patheos. I wrote them over the weekend, so proud of myself to actually be a few days ahead. Then I woke up yesterday, got my coffee, turned on …

back from a break & breaking old patterns.

kathyescobar blog, faith shifts, healing, the refuge 1 Comment

It’s been 3 months since I’ve blogged here, and I’m glad to get back in the groove this month (I miss rambling about things I like to ramble about–church, life, community, healing, faith shifts, justice, and equality!) I am not sure what things will look like exactly in this next season, blogging here for any and all things and also sharing over at Patheos Progressive Christian Channel on the realities of faith shifts. For now, I’m not going to worry about it too much and just share …

father’s day angst.

kathyescobar healing, relationships 1 Comment

It’s here tomorrow, yet another holiday that is great for all kinds of people and really hard for many others. I have written about all the major ones at this point–Christmas, Mother’s Day, Easter, and Father’s Day, too. But here we are again. Father’s Day always seems to seek up on us, and I didn’t want this day to go by without taking a pause and remembering that this day can create a lot of angst for people for all kinds of different reasons. But before I do …

5 things for 50.

kathyescobar ex good christian women, healing, identity, the refuge 13 Comments

I turned 50 on Mother’s Day. 5-0. Half a century. 5 decades. For all you young people reading, you’re like 50 is o-l-d. For all you 50’s and up reading, you’re like “quit complaining.” I’m not complaining, really. It’s just a weird feeling and the 40’s did feel younger! Jose and my friends threw me an amazing dance party at The Refuge, and it truly was the best way to ring in a new decade. I haven’t had much time or head space to write, as …