healthier people make healthier groups make healthier systems.

kathyescobar church stuff, healing 2 Comments

Over two decades of ministry I have consistently heard the same response from a wide array of church leaders from top to bottom (mainly male, but not always): “Kathy, why do you have to be so focused on healing and recovery stuff? It’s really not what people want.” Actually, I am greatly minimizing their words in that sentence. It’s actually been more like this: “People are sick of you talking about recovery or hearing addict’s stories.” “When are your people going to get healed and start …

nevertheless, we persisted.

kathyescobar faith shifts, healing, incarnational 6 Comments

It’s a new year. And goodness gracious, do I know so many people who are happy to leave 2017 behind! It’s been a rough one for so many–politically, spiritually, practically, and on a host of different levels. It was a pretty tricky one for me, too. 2017 was filled with transition, hard work at The Refuge to help nurture a healthier infrastructure, all sort of unexpected “omg, really?” moments and circumstances, and a boatload of angst watching the people and values I care about being violated …

outsiders re-dux.

kathyescobar advent & lent, ex good christian women, faith shifts, healing, incarnational 7 Comments

In these last few days before Christmas, I’ve been reflecting on this crazy year. On the political bizarreness we are all in the midst of, the stripping of benefits and protections for children while those on the top line their pockets, the reality of our systems being tilted toward undistributed power, the ongoing division within Christianity that is rocking not just “the church” system but countless hearts and souls as well. I am continually struck with the tension between those in power and the margins. When …

its all one big fat paradox.

kathyescobar advent & lent, healing, incarnational, the fam 7 Comments

We’re smack in the middle of Advent and I haven’t written anything since Thanksgiving week. That’s because the day after Thanksgiving we found out that my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Since then, we were able to move him to Colorado to spend this last season of life with us in our home surrounded by kids and dogs and Escobar chaos. We are so grateful. Really, things are pretty sweet around here. He is getting settled in and has care coming in. The Refuge community …

underneath guns.

kathyescobar faith and politics, healing, incarnational, injustice 3 Comments

Yet another mass shooting has rocked us this weekend. Our hearts are still reeling from Las Vegas and another one slams us, this time at a church in TX. Our Facebook feeds will be filled with different perspectives on guns and we’ll go through the cycle of grief yet again. Horror, shock, anger, and “We can’t keep living this way” and then slide into next month where really, nothing changes. New gun laws aren’t going to be in place anytime soon. The NRA isn’t going to …

rebuilding after a life shift.

kathyescobar healing, spiritual formation 1 Comment

This is Part 2 an extension of Life Shift: Finding your Way Forward When Everything Changes. I am glad this idea has resonated and people have been able to find themselves in the rhythm of this story. If you need a little review, go read the first post. I wanted to spend a little time fleshing out the framework of Rebuilding after a major life shift. These particular movements are exactly the same as the ones in Faith Shift, and seem to be helpful in the …

life shifts: finding our way forward when everything changes

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When I wrote Faith Shift over 4 years ago my husband, Jose, read the draft manuscript. After he finished, he was really excited and said “The entire time I was reading it I kept thinking how much of this applies to life transitions, not just faith or church ones.” I was busy focusing on faith shift conversations and didn’t think too much about it until this past year when I noticed countless moments with people who were sharing other transitions—divorce, job changes, deaths, all-things-children, mental or physical …

when words elude us.

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“But let us not put our sights too high. We do not have to be saviors of the world! We are simply human beings, enfolded in weakness and in hope, called together to change our world one heart at a time. ” ~ Jean Vanier ***** I had other posts to go up this week, both here and at Patheos. I wrote them over the weekend, so proud of myself to actually be a few days ahead. Then I woke up yesterday, got my coffee, turned on …