acceptance: letting go again and again

kathyescobar faith shifts, healing, spiritual formation 7 Comments

denial, anger, bargaining, depression.  the first four stages of grief are filled with raw and real feelings and many “i don’t knows.”  as i said earlier, these stages are so not linear and we cycle through them over and over again throughout time.  i like to think we bump into them at a difference place each time. the last stage of grief is also one that we will revisit again and again.  acceptance is usually not a once and for all but something that we have …

bargaining: the what if’s and if only’s

kathyescobar faith shifts, healing, spiritual formation 12 Comments

we’re on day 3 of grief week and i have appreciated the comments & emails & thoughts that this has stirred up in different ways.  if you are just joining us, we started with denial.  then yesterday was a look into anger.  today, we move into the third stage that is part of any grieving process-bargaining. this is the stage–and one we often come back to in our healing (remember grief is not linear)–where we look back with regret and wonder: what if i had… if …

grief week: anger

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it’s grief week around here, and there are a few things i wanted to mention as we continue through the 5 stages of grief for these 5 days: 1. in life, these stages take months & years and are messy & weird. 5 little blog posts about them can minimize this reality and i wanted to make sure and highlight that. 2. while these 5 stages are widely associated with grief, there are other aspects of grief and loss that don’t fit directly into these categories. 3. …