power is not like pie.

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friday night my amazing & wise & passionate friend pam hogeweide was at the refuge for a really fun event centered on her book unladylike: resisting the injustice of inequality in the church. a listening party, it was a chance for women & men to share stories and process some of these tough issues of the oppression of women in the church.  it was an amazing night & stirred up all kinds of loveliness.  over the next few weeks i’ll try to write a few things …

unless we’re all free, none of us are free.

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“freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed.“ – martin luther king, jr. most of you know i’m a nut case for equality.  you hear me talking a lot about gender equality but that’s just because it’s a critical starting place.  when half of the population of the world is thought of as “less than”, we’re in serious trouble.  in a church that is supposed to be the free-est, most liberating place in town, we’re in even deeper trouble. …

well-behaved women won’t change the church

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today i have a post up at ed cyzewski’s blog as part of his women in ministry series.  it’s called well-behaved women won’t change the church.  it was so fun to write this one! here’s a little excerpt: Well-behaved women won’t change the church. We just won’t. Well-behaved women will keep the wheels spinning on systems that keep working, keep growing, keep moving. We will do good and honorable work that matters and helps people and makes a difference in our communities. But we won’t change …

replacing the “f” word with the “d” word (no, not those ones!)

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* this post is part of the monthly synchroblog, different bloggers writing on the same topic.  this month’s topic is around gender equality, an issue near and dear to my heart.  check out the link list at the bottom of this post to read the other posts (i’ll add more as they come in). * * * * * “i have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made straight …

10 reasons why i’m an advocate for women’s liberation

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yesterday was international women’s day.  and like usual, i’m always a little late to the party.  some people think i’m a broken record when it comes to women’s equality. i’m glad. i want to use my voice & hands & feet in any small ways i can to shift the tides of inequality & injustice that strip the dignity of women. here’s why i’m pro-woman, pro-equality, pro-liberation-of-half-the-population: 1. i think Jesus was.  every interaction Jesus had with women was to set them free and lift their …

seeds matter.

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i have a black thumb. like if anything green enters my house–plants, flowers, yes even cactuses, within a week or two they are completely dead. it is funny to me that i ended up with this imagery from my post 2 weeks ago–plant new trees.  i was amazed by how so many resonated with it and now i, the worst-grower-of-anything green, am going in for round 2 on the tree metaphor! i also wanted to clarify something important about tree planting.  trees just aren’t “church plants” …

plant new trees.

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“then God said, “let us make human beings in our image, to be like us.” – genesis 1:26, NLT this past week i saw a flurry of facebook posts about john piper’s latest words about  masculine christianity.  i am pretty out of the blog-reading circuit because there are only so many hours in the day and mine are jam packed with people & kids & more kids & more people.  at the same time, i love that challenging conversations are happening and social media is a …

white privilege, male privilege, straight privilege, economic privilege

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i will never know what it’s like to be a person of color.  i can only listen and learn from my friends & family who are. i will never know what it’s like to be gay.  i can only listen and learn from my friends & family who are. i will likely never know what it’s like to be poor and live in section 8 housing.  i can only listen and learn from my friends & family who are. but i do know what it’s like …