women, men & church: what hurts, what helps

kathyescobar church stuff, co-pastoring, equality, ex good christian women, leadership, women in ministry 14 Comments

Two fridays ago The Refuge hosted our first “Beyond Seminary: Moving Theology into Practice” gathering. Our amazing friend and seminary professor Dr. Deborah Loyd facilitated and we were challenged, encouraged, inspired in all kinds of ways. There were 25 of us there, 21 women and 4 men. Yep. That was a little hard for me but probably tells the real story. Oh, we have to figure out how to get these conversations more balanced! Real, lasting change will happen when both genders are equally committed to learning and …

10 tangible ways we can work toward equality in the church.

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my dear friend & ministry partner recently attended a local leaders gathering and messaged me with a text that essentially said this:  “not one woman speaker, presenter, pray-er, anything-at-all-er. see, i am starting to notice it!”  i wrote him back, “yep, it’s real, and it sucks and thanks for noticing.” also this week i heard about this post by ed stetzer about his fear of being alone with a woman who wasn’t his wife;  it made me feel so sick and sad, to think how these commandments …

healers, bridge-builders, and community cultivators

kathyescobar church stuff, down we go, dreams, equality, faith shifts, incarnational, leadership, women in ministry 29 Comments

it was a great weekend at transform 2014 in san diego. it was lovely & inspiring hanging out with old friends & making some new ones, and on my middle-of-the-night-and-trying-to-stay-awake drive from san diego to LAX to catch a morning standby flight that ended up getting cancelled, i had a lot of time to reflect. and a weird thing happened as i was driving:  i started crying for the church.  no matter how mad i get at it, no matter how frustrated i am at the same-old-same-old …

rock boats, upset apple carts, ruffle feathers. it’s worth it.

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saturday was  international women’s day.  i wrote this post that morning but never got around to posting it so it’s going up today. i have written about it in the past–we just can’t stand by & the power of being wanted & belonging, and for a few consecutive years i shared why i am an advocate for women.  this year, though, after 4 different conversations in the past week all centered on the same topic, i decided to write something new because it’s on my heart in a …

making another’s pain in their heart our own.

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e got back last night from our fun adventure, celebrating my third kid’s high school graduation a little early.  the passport debacle was redeemed and we had a great time (and yes, will be getting the twins passports renewed this week). it really was a perfect & annoying test for my river image for 2013 & now 2014. we definitely rolled with it. on our trip i read one of the best books i’ve read in a while–the invention of wings by sue monk kidd.  i had no idea …

big tables where everyone eats

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my blog’s been a little wonky the past few weeks, with technical weird things and no time to figure out why people aren’t getting email posts and formatting’s off. when i was reflecting on this thanksgiving week, this old post from sheloves magazine came to mind, part of the down we go column i write once a month. some of the thoughts originated from a november synchroblog a few years before that called sitting-at-the-rickety-card-table-in-the-family-room-for-thanksgiving-dinner. this past sunday night was our 8th annual refuge thanksgiving feast together. as …

equality is a bumpy road (and sometimes it makes me want to stand on tables & scream)

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, equality, ex good christian women, friendship, injustice, leadership, rants, the refuge, women in ministry 29 Comments

i am coming upon my 10 year anniversary in full-time vocational ministry. january 1st of 2004 i went on a big church staff as the associate care pastor; the following year i became the adult ministry pastor, and then the year after that i lost my job after a big ugly bru-haha related to power & politics & inequality that would make your stomach turn.  since then, i have been co-pastoring our wild and beautiful little faith community, the refuge, alongside my friends & brothers & …

equality matters, post #328

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  yesterday my lovely and gifted blog friend sarah bessey’s new book was released. it’s called Jesus feminist, and i hope that you will buy a copy and let the beauty of her words sink into deep places into your heart and practice. obviously, she is singing a song that is music to my ears. i haven’t counted the posts i’ve written about it, but i know there have been a lot. here’s why. the battle for equality is far from won, but we are making …