outsiders.

kathyescobar advent & lent, church stuff, down we go, ex good christian women, faith shifts, jesus is cool 32 Comments

One of the things that has been the hardest about shifting faith is moving from being an “insider” to an “outsider.” I have always been one of those people who looks like an insider, like someone who fits in. The truth is that underneath a lot of that has been a prevailing feeling that somehow, I just really don’t. The more I’ve talked to people of the years, the more clear I am that we can be lonely in a group or as part of the …

what if…

kathyescobar church stuff, down we go, dreams, incarnational, leadership, the refuge, women in ministry 19 Comments

i was at a really lovely meeting a few weeks ago with a bunch of pastors, and it was wonderfully hopeful except for one thing–there were only three female pastors and a whole lot of white male ones, and not one person of color. even though i know this is reality, it still always startles me. then i heard about a new local church plant that intrigued me. i tried to be hopeful about what type of community it might be, and then i looked at …

the difference between “cultivating communities” and “building churches”

kathyescobar church stuff, down we go, dreams, incarnational, leadership, the refuge 15 Comments

i originally wrote this post in 2010, and it’s part of down we go. but in the past couple of weeks i’ve had some interesting conversations that reminded me of it and i thought i’d pare it down and re-post it. it’s funny, still, after these years, my thought is pretty much the same except for adding one more point at the end. there’s a huge difference between cultivating a community & building a church.   like the word “pastor”, the word “church” has become gravely misunderstood. …

mobile homes (not that kind)

kathyescobar advent & lent, down we go, healing, incarnational, jesus is cool, synchroblog 19 Comments

* today is the december synchroblog, different bloggers writing on the same topic.  the link list is at the bottom of this post. we are partnering with christine sine’s advent series all month called coming home. the first thought when i heard about this series was a post i wrote earlier this year for sheloves magazine called mobile homes (not that kind).  in the spirit of advent and Jesus’ mobile-home-ness and the realities, i thought i’d share it here as part of this month’s theme. whenever …

poverty & hidden rules & the best place to start

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, down we go, equality, friendship, incarnational, injustice 17 Comments

“but woe to you pharisees! for you tithe mint and rue and herbs of all kinds, and neglect justice and the love of God” – luke 11:42 last week a friend sent me the dave ramsey article–20 things the rich do every day. the list was a mixed bag and then i started to read the comments and had to click out of there as fast i could before i went a little crazy. rachel held evans wrote a great response  and i saw a few …

we may look like losers re-dux

kathyescobar down we go, incarnational, jesus is cool, synchroblog, the refuge 35 Comments

* this post is part of october’s synchroblog which is centered on downward mobility, one of my favorite topics!  read what others are saying about upside-down-kingdom-living by clicking on the link list at the end of this post.  i’ll update it as more posts come in. * * * * * my definition of downward mobility: downward mobility is a matter of the heart, not financial resources. it is losing our lives instead of protecting them. giving away our hearts instead of insulating them. intersecting with …

a prayer for practice.

kathyescobar church stuff, down we go, dreams, incarnational, jesus is cool, relationships, spiritual formation, the carnival in my head, the refuge 6 Comments

“practicing what we preach” is a lot easier said than done!  like most everyone, i’d rather preach it than practice it.  it’s fun to talk about community, to dream about community, to advocate for community.  and to actually live it is a whole different story.  i am very grateful to live in a community that challenges me in a place where everything i believe-in-the-depths-of-my-heart-when-it-comes-to-what-Jesus-meant-about-love-and-life-together intersects with my real life.  i am always faced with a choice–will i see it through or run from it?  trust me, …

here we go, down we go!

kathyescobar down we go 14 Comments

well, it’s finally here, one day late!  the release of this wild & fun project i’ve been working on since last fall–down we go: living into the wild ways of Jesus. it’s been a crazy ride getting here, all starting with a call from jonathan brink last year that said “you need to do this.” i hemmed and hawed (“i like my blog just fine,” i said).  but he stirred up the reality that even though i had no big desire to write a book anymore, …