healers, bridge-builders, and community cultivators

kathyescobar church stuff, down we go, dreams, equality, faith shifts, incarnational, leadership, women in ministry 29 Comments

it was a great weekend at transform 2014 in san diego. it was lovely & inspiring hanging out with old friends & making some new ones, and on my middle-of-the-night-and-trying-to-stay-awake drive from san diego to LAX to catch a morning standby flight that ended up getting cancelled, i had a lot of time to reflect. and a weird thing happened as i was driving:  i started crying for the church.  no matter how mad i get at it, no matter how frustrated i am at the same-old-same-old …

when our christian faith is questioned

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, ex good christian women, faith shifts, fundamentalism 36 Comments

many years ago i had a friend who was concerned about my salvation.  it appeared that my position that  “we were made in the image of God and there is good in us despite our sin” freaked her out in light of her position on total depravity. there’s much more to the story, but toward the end of our friendship, she asked me if she could share the gospel with me one more time just to make sure i understood how far off i was. i …

habits of the heart

kathyescobar church stuff, fundamentalism, healing, incarnational, leadership 5 Comments

through an awesome friend’s connection, i recently became part of an inter-faith group here in denver, faith leaders from many different traditions coming together once a month to share and learn together. i am new to it so just kind of getting the groove and listening as much as i can, but it has been a really interesting experience and something i have been wanting to do for a while.  my favorite part of it is that each person there can speak from their particular tradition …

what’s your position on?

kathyescobar church stuff, faith shifts, fundamentalism, leadership, the refuge 38 Comments

truth be told, i have a lot of pet peeves. i can’t stand when people slurp when they drink out of a cup (worse than nails on a chalkboard for me), snow (that’s not in the mountains when i’m skiing) bugs the $*#^!&! out of me, and when i hear someone say “we let women lead” i go a little nuts inside. but my new #1 pet peeve at the moment is when people ask the question:  what’s your position on _________?  (homosexuality, same-sex marriage, abortion, gun …

deeper dignified dialogue

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, incarnational, relationships 9 Comments

last year i was part of the denver faith & justice conference, a lovely event that included so many wonderful conversations. as part of the kick off, we set up the importance of cultivating dignified dialogue at the gathering. the people attending came from a wide variety of faith traditions, and  justice issues stir up a lot of strong feelings.  we used these guidelines for communication, and they seemed to set the stage for more safety & better listening. here were the 5 guidelines for dignified …

8 ways those from more liberal-progressive and conservative-evangelical persuasions can better love each other

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, incarnational, jesus is cool, relationships 36 Comments

* it’s going to be a busy 2 weeks on the blog and then i’m going to take all of july & august off so i can enjoy my kids home from summer, work on faith shift, and focus on refuge stuff that really needs some attention. i am going to miss you and it will be freaky to not think in blog for that long but after 2 weeks with lots of posts, you’ll probably be sick of me and ready for a break, too! …