restored dignity won’t drop out of the sky

kathyescobar church stuff, down we go, healing, identity, incarnational, jesus is cool, the refuge 3 Comments

this past friday i spoke at a large gathering here in denver called simply jesus. i was only there for the first part because of kids’ football games, but i did get to see NT wright in the lobby!  it was also a bonus gift to get to meet kelley nikondeha, a sister from shelovesmagazine & kindred spirit & d.l. mayfield, who has a really awesome series on her blog centered on downward mobility. the contrast to my unplugged life at the refuge was wild (and microphones …

what seems to help in the midst of pain

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, incarnational, leadership, synchroblog, the refuge 44 Comments

“when we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. the friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with …

when crazy is actually sane & sane is actually crazy

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, incarnational, jesus is cool, relationships, spiritual formation, the refuge 17 Comments

one of my favorite gospel stories is the woman who busts into simon the pharisee’s house in luke 7 and falls at Jesus’ feet, wiping his feet with her tears.  in that moment, he was hanging out with the put-together, religious elite talking about theology.  they were supposedly the sane ones, and she was the crazy one who disrupts their important meeting with her public display of emotion and gratitude. the leaders looked at Jesus–“aren’t you going to do something about this? i mean, really, come …

the practice of the better

kathyescobar church stuff, dreams, incarnational 19 Comments

“the best criticism of the bad is the practice of the better” – richard rohr * * * * * i had an interesting conversation with a friend this past week who didn’t really know my story of the past 7+ years of the ups of working on a big church staff to the downs (in a good way, ha ha) of starting the refuge.  stepping out of the path of ascent into one of descent started long before 7 years ago, but it wasn’t until …

these things shouldn’t be all that crazy…

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, equality, incarnational, leadership 7 Comments

sometimes i have fun conversations with other people who have crazy ideas about “church”, too.  whenever i do, i always say “well, it’s great to know we’re not crazy. or maybe if we are, at least we’re not alone.” when i said it this past week i added–it’s really crazy that these ideas are often seen as crazy! somehow the wild & wacky ways of Jesus in the gospels has gotten so decked-out-with-bells-and-whistles, sanitized, professionalized, leadership-ized and institutionalized that really actually doing what he challenged us …