God in the thick of us

God in the thick of us.

kathyescobar advent & lent, healing, incarnational, jesus is cool 8 Comments

Happy Christmas Eve. I am juggling kids and Refuge this week with no time to write but always come back to the gift of Jesus, Emmanuel, God with us. It’s one of the deepest spiritual truths that continues to sustain me and was the one thing that I could always rely on during my crazy faith Unraveling.  This is a post I wrote for She Loves Magazine 3 years ago but I think I’d write the same thing today. Tonight we celebrate God with us, in …

screwing up is spiritual formation

formation friday: screwing up as spiritual formation

kathyescobar formation friday, healing, spiritual formation 8 Comments

I make a lot of mistakes. I say stupid things I regret. I dig holes when I should lay down my shovel. I hurt people unintentionally. I hit “send” on emails when I wish I hadn’t. I write things on my blog that sometimes make me cringe later. The past few months I had some extra screw ups, moments where I wish I could turn time back, where I knew I said too much and it caused more damage. There were moments where if I had …

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human connection.

kathyescobar down we go, friendship, healing, incarnational, spiritual formation 6 Comments

Some of you may have already seen this excellent video that points to a recent study that confirms what so many have known intuitively–the root of all addictions is disconnection. It’s really worth the time to watch it and reminds me of what one of my favorite theologian-practictioners in the whole-wide-world, Jean Vanier, has been saying for a long, long time:  “We human beings are all fundamentally the same. We all belong to a common, broken humanity. We all have wounded, vulnerable hearts. Each one of …

power is always resistant to uncomfortable

power’s resistance to the uncomfortable.

kathyescobar advent & lent, down we go, incarnational, jesus is cool 2 Comments

This time of year I always think of how much I love the Christmas story. Not the neat and tidy shiny story that often gets told and is depicted on Christmas cards and all kinds of slogans, but the real story that is underneath it. The story of God coming into the world in such a subversive, unexpected way. The story that doesn’t make sense and involves ordinary people who step into a complicated story and have to live with all the consequences. The story that reminds us …

the best criticism of the bad is the practice of the better

“um, well, it depends on what you mean by ‘Christian'”

kathyescobar crazy making, faith shifts, fundamentalism, healing, incarnational 9 Comments

In the earlier days of my faith, knowing who was and wasn’t a “Christian” was a big deal to me. There was something attached to it that was comforting, familiar, certain. When I look back on those years, “Is he/she a Christian?” would come up in countless ways–related to teachers, doctors, family members, auto mechanics, friends, you name it. Now, if I hear it, I often feel myself tense up and my skin get a little itchy. I feel weird about my reflexive response because I …

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when Christmas is hard…

kathyescobar advent & lent, healing, incarnational 4 Comments

Blogging has been on the back-burner for me in this past season, and I miss you guys! I just haven’t been in the right head space to write, and honestly, waking up to hearing the realities of another mass shooting, this one at a disability center, just makes me so sick and all words fall flat.  Eventually, some of the things I’ve been processing in my head and heart over the past few months will tumble out here, but before too much time goes by in …

for jesus there are no countries to be conquered

little (and big and every size in between) pockets of peace

kathyescobar dreams, incarnational, injustice, leadership 2 Comments

Oh, what a horrid month it’s been.  Beirut, Syria, Iraq, and Paris (and many, many others not highlighted in the news). So much violence, destruction, fear, and confusion. What can we do? How do we carry on with our real lives and not ignore the reality of such deep pain in our fellow humans? We can feel so helpless. I haven’t been writing much this month for all kinds of reasons (mainly, if it doesn’t come, I just don’t force it), but I felt an urge …

listen love learn

important words from parents of LGBQT kids: what hurts, what helps

kathyescobar equality, faith shifts, healing, incarnational, injustice, what it's like 6 Comments

I had the privilege of spending a few days with an online support group for moms of LGBQT kids of all ages. What a gift! These are amazing women of hope and courage. As we all know, many strains of Christianity have not been kind to these kids and parents. The judgment, the ostracizing, the scripturizing has been extremely painful and has catalyzed many of them to experience painful (and freeing!) faith shifts. I loved listening to how people are finding their way, and a lot …