educate, advocate, agitate.

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in july i had the privilege of attending a banquet at the christians for biblical equality conference in pittsburgh. i couldn’t participate in the entire conference because of my kiddos, but my daughter and i went for the evening because they gave me the “priscilla & aquila award” for standing up against gender inequality in the church. it was an unexpected surprise earlier in the year and definitely an honor.  i was also grateful to hear from such passionate and dear men and women dedicated to …

10 reasons i am an advocate for women’s equality.

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today is international women’s day.  instead of writing the same thing with a different twist, i decided to just re-post what i wrote last year as a reminder to me, and maybe to some of you.  when we are trying to shift tides & change deeply grooved systems of inequality & injustice, we won’t be able to just say it once or twice. we will have to keep using our voice & hands & feet & hearts and play our part in change over the long haul. …

“i just feel like i’m one of the guys” and other subtleties working against equality

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last week i read a post on a friend’s facebook page about the emergence christianity gathering in memphis. i wasn’t there so i can’t speak into anything that happened there, but she made an interesting observation that caught my eye.  when addressed with a question about gender inequality in emergence christianity, several of the female speakers responded with “well, i don’t feel unequal, i feel like i’m just one of the guys.” i know some women who have made it very far in their craft and passion …

“you’re a pretty good speaker for a woman” and other wacky memories

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(but they can sure try!) a weird thing happened to me a few weeks ago. i was at the twins’ basketball game on a snowy december night, sitting by myself, when a vivid memory swooped in out of the blue from 7 years before.  it was when i was still on big-church-staff and we hosted a special winter event where several of us shared dreams for our different ministries to gain financial support for the church.  right afterward, an elder came up to me and said …

the problem of patriarchy & living the solution.

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* thank you, dear friends, for the love & support & encouragement for the refuge in all kinds of different ways. i struggled with writing that post & of course as soon as i hit publish i had blogger’s remorse. but i knew i needed to and i’m glad i did.  i am always reminded of how much i have to learn. i guess this is how we learn it–by practicing. so while i have felt raw & weird, i also feel grateful for God’s faithfulness …

“we let women lead…”

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i had to squeeze this post in while it was fresh in my mind, and it just might be my shortest blog post ever, yeah! on friday night at the voca femina denver share party (glorious!) i was talking to a wise and lovely friend who reminded me of something i also absolutely can’t stand when it comes to the conversation about women and church–when men (and women, too) say “well, we let women lead…” “we let women…” i’m sure many of you have heard–or said–some …

5 nonviolent ways we can help win the war against women

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last week was a big week for me; after sending our oldest son back to college the week before, we took our daughter to start her freshman year in college in new york city, got our twins started in middle school, and sent our #3 off to florida for a football team adventure.  to top if it off, i officiated a dear & beautiful friend’s wedding and that’s not counting regular refuge nuttiness.  i’m tired but grateful. i miss my daughter terribly already, but i am …

well-behaved women won’t change the church

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today i have a post up at ed cyzewski’s blog as part of his women in ministry series.  it’s called well-behaved women won’t change the church.  it was so fun to write this one! here’s a little excerpt: Well-behaved women won’t change the church. We just won’t. Well-behaved women will keep the wheels spinning on systems that keep working, keep growing, keep moving. We will do good and honorable work that matters and helps people and makes a difference in our communities. But we won’t change …