10 tangible ways we can work toward equality in the church.

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my dear friend & ministry partner recently attended a local leaders gathering and messaged me with a text that essentially said this:  “not one woman speaker, presenter, pray-er, anything-at-all-er. see, i am starting to notice it!”  i wrote him back, “yep, it’s real, and it sucks and thanks for noticing.” also this week i heard about this post by ed stetzer about his fear of being alone with a woman who wasn’t his wife;  it made me feel so sick and sad, to think how these commandments …

what if…

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i was at a really lovely meeting a few weeks ago with a bunch of pastors, and it was wonderfully hopeful except for one thing–there were only three female pastors and a whole lot of white male ones, and not one person of color. even though i know this is reality, it still always startles me. then i heard about a new local church plant that intrigued me. i tried to be hopeful about what type of community it might be, and then i looked at …

healers, bridge-builders, and community cultivators

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it was a great weekend at transform 2014 in san diego. it was lovely & inspiring hanging out with old friends & making some new ones, and on my middle-of-the-night-and-trying-to-stay-awake drive from san diego to LAX to catch a morning standby flight that ended up getting cancelled, i had a lot of time to reflect. and a weird thing happened as i was driving:  i started crying for the church.  no matter how mad i get at it, no matter how frustrated i am at the same-old-same-old …

rock boats, upset apple carts, ruffle feathers. it’s worth it.

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saturday was  international women’s day.  i wrote this post that morning but never got around to posting it so it’s going up today. i have written about it in the past–we just can’t stand by & the power of being wanted & belonging, and for a few consecutive years i shared why i am an advocate for women.  this year, though, after 4 different conversations in the past week all centered on the same topic, i decided to write something new because it’s on my heart in a …

making another’s pain in their heart our own.

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e got back last night from our fun adventure, celebrating my third kid’s high school graduation a little early.  the passport debacle was redeemed and we had a great time (and yes, will be getting the twins passports renewed this week). it really was a perfect & annoying test for my river image for 2013 & now 2014. we definitely rolled with it. on our trip i read one of the best books i’ve read in a while–the invention of wings by sue monk kidd.  i had no idea …

equality is a bumpy road (and sometimes it makes me want to stand on tables & scream)

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i am coming upon my 10 year anniversary in full-time vocational ministry. january 1st of 2004 i went on a big church staff as the associate care pastor; the following year i became the adult ministry pastor, and then the year after that i lost my job after a big ugly bru-haha related to power & politics & inequality that would make your stomach turn.  since then, i have been co-pastoring our wild and beautiful little faith community, the refuge, alongside my friends & brothers & …

equality matters, post #328

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  yesterday my lovely and gifted blog friend sarah bessey’s new book was released. it’s called Jesus feminist, and i hope that you will buy a copy and let the beauty of her words sink into deep places into your heart and practice. obviously, she is singing a song that is music to my ears. i haven’t counted the posts i’ve written about it, but i know there have been a lot. here’s why. the battle for equality is far from won, but we are making …

educate, advocate, agitate.

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in july i had the privilege of attending a banquet at the christians for biblical equality conference in pittsburgh. i couldn’t participate in the entire conference because of my kiddos, but my daughter and i went for the evening because they gave me the “priscilla & aquila award” for standing up against gender inequality in the church. it was an unexpected surprise earlier in the year and definitely an honor.  i was also grateful to hear from such passionate and dear men and women dedicated to …