peace it does not mean to be in a place

brain fog & blog breaks & being back (sort-of)

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It’s been a while! My last post here was june 4th, and it feels like just a few weeks ago but it’s been 3 months, wild. I am glad I took a longer break this year; I needed to not be thinking in blog all of the time. And it worked. I stopped thinking about it so much that September 1st came and went without even realizing it was here. A lot has happened over the past 3 months, and I wanted to catch up a …

the way toward something new

8 ways men can advocate for women’s equality.

kathyescobar church stuff, dreams, equality, friendship, incarnational, leadership, the refuge 15 Comments

Yesterday I had the privilege of sharing on a panel alongside 4 other female pastors & leaders in a room filled with about 25 male pastors & leaders in Denver. Most everyone had evangelical roots, and while some pastored churches others were leading nonprofits and various ministries in town. There was only one purpose: to listen to what it was like to be a woman in ministry.  We had told our stories several months before in a similar forum, but last time the number of women …

what are you for

what we’re for.

kathyescobar church stuff, down we go, dreams, equality, faith shifts, healing, the refuge 11 Comments

There’s a new church plant in my neighborhood at our local school. They moved here with a whole bunch of people from another state, started two services out of the chute, have mailed us multiple big expensive postcards, put up flags and signs lining the street, and even have parking attendants in bright orange jackets ready to guide you into your parking spot . I have seen them every Sunday morning because that’s a time I usually for sure take a walk. I told Jose the …

in my living room: choices

kathyescobar healing, relationships, spiritual formation, the refuge 6 Comments

One of my favorite times of the week is our Wednesday House of Refuge group that gathers at our house. A fun, open group, it’s been going since the beginning of The Refuge, almost 9 years now, and it’s always one of the most interesting times of my week. We have a potluck, and it’s wild and chaotic, with kids running to and fro and people eating and laughing and catching up. After dinner, the kids go downstairs and the grownups participate in spiritual conversation, which …

third way practices.

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, faith shifts, fundamentalism, incarnational, jesus is cool, leadership, the refuge 28 Comments

once in a while i click on a facebook link that i sort of know i shouldn’t read but do anyway (you know that feeling?) and yeah, i usually end up groaning.  sure enough, i clicked on the “there’s no third way” post by al mohler, who agrees with tony jones that when it comes to the issue of same-sex marriage there’s no third way for the christians.  their premise is that people are going to have to choose. churches are going to have to split.  …

an evangelical and a progressive walk into a church…

kathyescobar church stuff, dreams, faith shifts, friendship, leadership, the refuge 29 Comments

it’s been a crazy week around here with my oldest son and my second son (third child) graduating from college and high school on the same day, at the same time, in different states. we made it through, though, and it was filled with all kinds of wonderful memories. in 4 more years, jose and i will be empty nesters, wild! it feels good to be over the hump of a crazy may, and i am getting excited for a gathering the refuge is hosting in …

what if…

kathyescobar church stuff, down we go, dreams, incarnational, leadership, the refuge, women in ministry 19 Comments

i was at a really lovely meeting a few weeks ago with a bunch of pastors, and it was wonderfully hopeful except for one thing–there were only three female pastors and a whole lot of white male ones, and not one person of color. even though i know this is reality, it still always startles me. then i heard about a new local church plant that intrigued me. i tried to be hopeful about what type of community it might be, and then i looked at …

the difference between “cultivating communities” and “building churches”

kathyescobar church stuff, down we go, dreams, incarnational, leadership, the refuge 15 Comments

i originally wrote this post in 2010, and it’s part of down we go. but in the past couple of weeks i’ve had some interesting conversations that reminded me of it and i thought i’d pare it down and re-post it. it’s funny, still, after these years, my thought is pretty much the same except for adding one more point at the end. there’s a huge difference between cultivating a community & building a church.   like the word “pastor”, the word “church” has become gravely misunderstood. …