listening in on some faith shift conversations.

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Some of you may already know about The Work of the People and the interesting and beautiful material they have.  Interviews, visual liturgies, and all kinds of other awesomeness abound on their site. If you don’t subscribe yet, it’s so worth it.  There is so much beauty and hope packed in there! My personal favorites are the Jean Vanier pieces, and we’ve used the visual liturgies for different Refuge gatherings over the years. As I mentioned a few weeks ago on Facebook, in September I spent some time gabbing …

tender faith stories, handle with care.

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Can you say “vulnerability hangover?” Brene Brown talks about them and at The Refuge we joke about them, and let me just tell you–I have a big fat one right now. When I first saw the clip online from my conversation on The Work of the People, I could feel it in my stomach. That knot, that uh-oh feeling, that oh-my-goodness-what-have-I-done-by-sharing-so-much-so-publicly about one of the most tender places in my life, my faith? It’s scary enough to put it in print, but there’s something even more …

when we’re spiritually hangry.

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When I was last visiting my daughter in New York she started getting cranky because we hadn’t eaten and been walking all over town forever. She said, “Mommmmm, Feed me! I’m getting hangry!” I get angry sometimes, too, when I’m hungry. It’s that desperate feeling like I better get some food now before I go off the deep end. My husband, Jose, thinks it’s kind of funny but the truth is funny is not the word I would use to describe it in the moment. This …

busy blog.

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Sometimes I don’t blog much here, but I’ve got other posts floating around in various places. I usually always write them at totally different times but then they all hit at the same time, which is kind of weird.  This past week was one of those weeks! Here are some posts out and about that you might want to check out because they are part of other interesting things worth knowing about: You may have already seen the post here, but this past week was Mental …

acceptance: letting go again and again

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denial, anger, bargaining, depression.  the first four stages of grief are filled with raw and real feelings and many “i don’t knows.”  as i said earlier, these stages are so not linear and we cycle through them over and over again throughout time.  i like to think we bump into them at a difference place each time. the last stage of grief is also one that we will revisit again and again.  acceptance is usually not a once and for all but something that we have …

depression, a natural part of grief

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in his book a grief observed CS lewis says this about grief: “no one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. i am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. the same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. i keep on swallowing. at other times it feels like being mildly drunk, or concussed. there is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me. i find it hard to take in what anyone says. or perhaps, hard to …

bargaining: the what if’s and if only’s

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we’re on day 3 of grief week and i have appreciated the comments & emails & thoughts that this has stirred up in different ways.  if you are just joining us, we started with denial.  then yesterday was a look into anger.  today, we move into the third stage that is part of any grieving process-bargaining. this is the stage–and one we often come back to in our healing (remember grief is not linear)–where we look back with regret and wonder: what if i had… if …

grief week: anger

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it’s grief week around here, and there are a few things i wanted to mention as we continue through the 5 stages of grief for these 5 days: 1. in life, these stages take months & years and are messy & weird. 5 little blog posts about them can minimize this reality and i wanted to make sure and highlight that. 2. while these 5 stages are widely associated with grief, there are other aspects of grief and loss that don’t fit directly into these categories. 3. …