these came to mind…

kathyescobar blog, mommydom 9 Comments

i had a typically schizophrenic week–running from deep conversations at the refuge to driving carpools, from 8 degree weather in colorado to 72 degrees in so. cal to share at a gathering of missional leaders, from paying the bills to talking to social workers to working on faith shift edits. on friday afternoon, i finished up a down we go workshop & looked at my phone.  the text was from one of the twins and said “mom, call dad ASAP, it’s an emergency!”  my heart fell to …

there are lots of ways to mother.

kathyescobar healing, identity, incarnational, mommydom, relationships 11 Comments

it’s mother’s day weekend in the USA, the time where a bunch of women feel special and extra-loved, and another group of women often don’t.  like so many other holidays, many who feel great about it  sometimes forget that there are others who really struggle this particular weekend. church is extra sucky if they make all the mothers stand up and get a flower and you’re the one still sitting. in divorced families, the reality of what’s been lost creeps up.  others have lost their mothers …

anger is not a sin

kathyescobar ex good christian women, faith shifts, mommydom 2 Comments

* remember this week i’m just archiving guest posts from other places over the past few months.  you might have read them before.  this one is from the amazing rachel held evans’ series on faith & parenting.  i just realized that i somehow never responded to any of the comments over there (in my mind i did, ha ha).  now it feels a little late to do that over there but if you want to add anything here, would love to hear your thoughts.  * * …

safer parenting

kathyescobar mommydom 21 Comments

one more post before we get back to planting trees!  my wise & inspiring blog friend sarah bessey is hosting a week-long parenting blog carnival centered around the practices of parenting.  i rarely write about parenting here for the sake of my dear children who wouldn’t be too keen on me sharing a lot of details about them on the world wide web.  facebook is enough for them. they are 20, 18, 15 1/2, and 12 (the last 2 are twins).  4 boys & 1 girl …

let go or be dragged

kathyescobar ex good christian women, healing, mommydom, relationships 21 Comments

i ran across this american proverb a while back & then a dear friend gave it to me on a magnet for christmas:  “let go or be dragged.” it is so appropriate in more ways than one, and now i see it first thing every morning when i get creamer for my coffee. i need the reminder. as a parent, as a leader, as a friend, as someone healing from woundedness, one of the greatest gifts we can learn is the art of “letting go”.  letting …

graduation goodies

kathyescobar mommydom, the fam 1 Comment

(NOTE: i accidentally permanently deleted this original post along with the comments that originally went with it back in may.  sorry!) * * * * * well it’s been absolutely nutty around the escobar house (what’s new?).  but honestly, it really has been a crazy week with my oldest son graduating from high school.  it’s so hard to believe that this moment really came, my little bunny now heading off to college in a month (he’s going to the naval academy in annapolis).  these 18 years …

because i like to make people feel better about themselves

kathyescobar ex good christian women, just because i thought it was fun, mommydom 10 Comments

i am not a very neat and organized person.  actually, i am organized (i know some of you are chuckling right now, but i really do know where almost everything is). and  if i had more time (and a full-time-personal-assistant) the truth is my life & my stuff really would be more organized because i really do like it that way.  the problem is time & people & kids.  and over the years i have learned to let go and just lean into the reality that …

a view from the margins: marginalized kids

kathyescobar a view from the margins, church stuff, crazy making, incarnational, mommydom 11 Comments

marginalizing people is not limited to age.  kids get marginalized all the time, too.  the ones cast aside, avoided,  ignored the  most are probably the kids with special needs.  many people are afraid of them.  sometimes grownups don’t know what to do so they end up doing nothing.  the result:  we unknowingly marginalize kids and families when they need us the most.  Jesus loves the little children.  And he desperately and tangibly loves those that the world is afraid to touch.  special  needs kids can sometimes …