a more honest thanksgiving.

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I love Thanksgiving. It’s always been such a sweet holiday for us. We have a fun Refuge family feast the Sunday before Thanksgiving that warms my soul. My adult kids come home from across the USA. We see a bunch of movies together and eat a lot of junk food. On Thanksgiving day we play flag football and host a fun and sweet dinner for everyone who needs a place to be. We cut down our Christmas tree the day after and eat some more. Then …

underneath guns.

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Yet another mass shooting has rocked us this weekend. Our hearts are still reeling from Las Vegas and another one slams us, this time at a church in TX. Our Facebook feeds will be filled with different perspectives on guns and we’ll go through the cycle of grief yet again. Horror, shock, anger, and “We can’t keep living this way” and then slide into next month where really, nothing changes. New gun laws aren’t going to be in place anytime soon. The NRA isn’t going to …

the tip of the “me, too” iceberg

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I’ll get Part 2 of the Life Shift thoughts up next, but I have been overwhelmed with the amount of “me, toos” in my Facebook feed over the last two days. In light of the Harvey Weinstein story of insidious sexual harassment in the motion picture industry, women have been responding to this call: “If all the women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote ‘Me too’ as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.” My Facebook Feed …

when words elude us.

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“But let us not put our sights too high. We do not have to be saviors of the world! We are simply human beings, enfolded in weakness and in hope, called together to change our world one heart at a time. ” ~ Jean Vanier ***** I had other posts to go up this week, both here and at Patheos. I wrote them over the weekend, so proud of myself to actually be a few days ahead. Then I woke up yesterday, got my coffee, turned on …

what’s our knee to take?

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It’s been yet another whirlwind week in our country, with the President of the United States of America calling out professional athletes protesting racism in America. The flames of division continue to rise and rage. The sides continue to become more polarized. The crazy train we are on keeps picking up speed. I could go on about the despair I sometimes feel about our current presidency, but that’s not going to be productive today. I was just finishing a post on life shifts but put it …

jezebel, eve, and the baggage we keep carrying.

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I was out of the country in Peru last week on a fun spring break adventure with our twins, and when I got back and turned on my computer I saw a flurry of posts related to Vice President Mike Pence’s application of the “Billy Graham Rule.” Never being alone with a woman other than his wife. No lunch, no dinner, no coffee. No nothing alone. Ever. I saw comments on Facebook that were all over the place. Ones that praised his “wisdom” and ones that …

rising together.

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Today is International Women’s Day. You all know I am a passionate advocate for women and write about it all the time here. Our equality is all tied up together. Unless we’re all free, none of us are free, and it’s important to always remind ourselves that well behaved women won’t change the church (or history). Equality is a verb.  The boats need to be rocked, and the path forward means we will have to educate, advocate, agitate, and that usually always comes with a cost. Some of you …

who do we defer to?

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Most anyone who knows me knows one important thing about me: I care deeply about folks on the margins. What that means is that people who are normally not in the main stream of power are my priority. This also means different things to different people, but on the whole, people on the margins are more vulnerable than others. For me, this includes: people of color, those living in poverty and consistently under-resourced financially, those struggling with mental health issues, people with a range of disabilities, single …