Jesus school: not the most inspiring in town

kathyescobar church stuff, incarnational, jesus is cool, relationships, spiritual formation, the refuge 10 Comments

many of you know that when i describe the refuge i use words like “messy, chaotic, honest, uncomfortable, unpredictable.”  it is so funny to me, looking back on the past 3 ½ years how the world that i came from was completely different.  on mega-church staff we used words like “focused, distraction-free, inspiring, dark-so-you-don’t-have-to-see-the-person-next-to-you, comfortable.”   this past weekend at the refuge we had all of our kiddos with us upstairs; my friends facilitated the gathering in the same basic format as the downstairs kids gathering.  there …

out of the darkness: the lingering damage of sexual abuse

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so far we’ve heard 3 out of the darkness stories – self-injury, brave thoughts from a former abuser, and hope and healing from sexual addiction.  i am thankful for my courageous friends who are willing to share their stories here on the carnival for the benefit of others.  one of the worst things about pain & shame is the feeling that we’re the only ones who struggle.  i have said it many times before, but i will say it again:  we are meant to participate in …

out of the darkness: hope & healing from sexual addiction

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thanks all for your comments & emails from the last couple of “out of the darkness” posts.   it is always so beautiful to me to have people connect with other’s stories both personally and spirituallly. and while we may not have had the same experience exactly, the part that we can probably most connect to is the fear of having our “whole self” out on the table with other people in community.  sure, it’s easy to say “oh, i struggle with this here and there and …

out of the darkness: brave thoughts from a former abuser

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damn, i know the bravest people! seriously. and what is so funny to me is that many look at our community from the outside and comment that somehow it’s not a place for them.  “there’s just too much brokenness at the refuge” is a comment i have heard my fair share of.  i think folks who say this honestly have no idea how much true wisdom and power and beauty exists in this crazy container and how much they would be challenged in their own journey …

why we need mothers & fathers, brothers & sisters, daughters & sons

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i have been wanting to write this post for a while. it has been especially impressed on my heart in the past few months and i thought in honor of the-day-after-mother’s day i’d actually write it. i think that the purpose of community–“the church”–is to have a place, whatever that looks like, to learn to love God & others and to be loved by God & others. like so many things that matter, i do not think it magically drops out of the sky.  it comes …

“we are one” & more ramblings about justice

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well we’re back from our crazy rome trip. we were only there a little over 24 hours because that is what jose’s layover was (for those of you who don’t know he is a pilot for united airlines to pay our bills & a new lawyer for a legal aid clinic here in denver because that is what he has become really passionate about in the past few years.  yes, that is one of the reasons it’s so nutty around here).   we had a great …

power differentials in action

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if you’ve been reading for a while you know i am passionate about advocacy.   i believe we are called to stand up for the oppressed, be a voice for the voiceless, and to raise awareness of injustices with more than just words.   my last specific rant about this subject was when i wrote make advocates not buildings; i shared about an experience i had going to social security offices with a single mom on disability.   i have seen it in action many a time–the doors …

mixing it up: say yes.

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i’m kind of melancholy & raw these days, in a good way.  re-thinking a lot, waiting, listening, trying to notice some things God is probably saying that i keep trying to juke & jive my way out of, fairly unsuccessfully.   anyway, i thought i’d mix it up a bit and share this andrea gibson poetry slam piece i watched today from jen lemen’s blog. i rarely take the time to watch these kinds of links, but once in a while i am drawn in & …