the difference between cultivating communities and building churches.

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Yesterday at The Refuge’s Sunday night gathering we had some cupcakes and sang happy 11th birthday to The Refuge. It’s hard for me to believe it’s been 11 years. When it started I was just wrapping up my 30’s and now, in 3 weeks, I will be turning 50 years old (more on that soon, yikes!). The Refuge is a Christian community and mission center, and I’m always reminded how that’s different from our typical view of “church.” I’ve written about this before in Down We Go and …

holy week 2017: bombs & feet

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I’ve been blogging through Holy Week (Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday are up so far). I had another post I was going to share earlier today–Maundy Thursday–but I ended up having an extra busy day and by the time I got home, I had heard the news that we dropped our biggest non-nuclear bomb in US history in Afghanistan. I knew I didn’t want to just hit “publish” on what I had written. Most of it is all contained in this old post anyway–receiving. Instead, I just …

holy week 2017: little pockets of freedom

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It’s Wednesday of Holy Week, and I’m back in Denver after a family wedding in Nevada and visiting my dad in Northern California for a few days. My heart is full. I also had the privilege of getting to hang out with a friend who I met through this blog to talk about all-things-faith-shift before I flew out today. I am always completely awed by people’s tenacity and courage and what it takes to exit unhealthy systems and find their way to freedom.  It’s Passover week …

holy week 2017: turning over tables in the temple

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This year I decided to blog through Holy Week. Yesterday we started with Palm Sunday and our love of a certain kind of king. I find it fascinating that the next thing Jesus did after he entered Jerusalem on a donkey to the cheers of “Hosanna!” was go straight to the temple and start turning over tables.  Matthew 21:12-15 describe it this way: “Jesus entered the Temple and began to drive out all the people buying and selling animals for sacrifice. He knocked over the tables …

holy week 2017: palm sunday, oh we love our kings

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Today is Palm Sunday, the beginning of Holy Week on the road toward Easter. I also call Holy week “It’s not what we think week.” I decided to blog every day this week, until the day after Easter Sunday as a spiritual practice for myself, to remember the story, to draw back on some thoughts I’ve written before, and most of all to reflect on Jesus through the lens of rocking the establishment in ways we continue to struggle with. Like Advent and the anticipation of …

WTF, God?

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One of my greatest joys is to journey alongside people in their honest relationship with God.  I have yet to encounter someone in spiritual direction who was saying things like “I am feeling so great spiritually!” “I’ve never been this connected to God.” or “I am completely filled up.”  Usually, our conversations are wrestling with disconnection, fear, anger, mistrust, separation, and honestly a lot of questions that start with WTF, God? I understand that a lot of people might be offended by that. Can we really …

rising together.

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Today is International Women’s Day. You all know I am a passionate advocate for women and write about it all the time here. Our equality is all tied up together. Unless we’re all free, none of us are free, and it’s important to always remind ourselves that well behaved women won’t change the church (or history). Equality is a verb.  The boats need to be rocked, and the path forward means we will have to educate, advocate, agitate, and that usually always comes with a cost. Some of you …

who do we defer to?

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Most anyone who knows me knows one important thing about me: I care deeply about folks on the margins. What that means is that people who are normally not in the main stream of power are my priority. This also means different things to different people, but on the whole, people on the margins are more vulnerable than others. For me, this includes: people of color, those living in poverty and consistently under-resourced financially, those struggling with mental health issues, people with a range of disabilities, single …