a community where men cry

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i am not into talking that much about the differences between men and women.  in fact, i rarely, if ever, do because i just lean on the bottom line, that we are human beings and both essentially need the same things.  yes, of course inside we might be wired a little differently emotionally, but i hate the stereotypes and the way writers pigeon hole men and women:  “men just want respect, women just need love” “men are from mars and women are from venus” “men want the facts, women …

why prepositions matter

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my friends know a lot about incarnational relationships.  in the trenches at milehigh ministries, they are passionate about all the same stuff i am.   a few weeks ago they facilitated our sunday refuge gathering and shared about the spiritual discipline of incarnational relationships.  the official word in the richard foster books would be “service and submission” but we thought we’d take a little different angle.  to us, in what we are committed to living out together at the refuge, serving & submitting is really about living incarnationally …

the power of the ordinary

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this past week i stumbled on a quote at my friend makeesha’s blog by shane claiborne (one of my favorite voices for change in the kingdom of God). claiborne said”:  “get ready, people, God has prepared you for something really, really small!” oh i know that will really get the goats of so many people who believe the spiritual life is about moving mountains.  i am not discounting the importance of big dreams.  but what i have found is that many many people believe that because they …

more than the mess

kathyescobar ex good christian women, healing, spiritual formation 9 Comments

  the picture on the left are cups are on my bathroom counter.  and no, they’re not for some science experiment i’m doing with my kids.  they’ve been there for over a week. jose has been seeing how many days it will take before i actually do something about them and the funny thing is that i just keep adding to them.  the dirty coffee cups & empty water glasses are multiplying right before our very eyes. and the fuzz, well, it’s starting to grow.   i don’t know …

the beauty and pain of pot-making

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and for all you naughties out there who only saw the title & not the picture,  i’m talking about pots that potters make out of clay!   yesterday i went to the spiritual direction  3 hour retreat that the refuge hosted at jenny’s house.   my friend debbie swanson, who is a spiritual director, facilitated.   i loved the time and space to just chill, be quiet, listen, receive.  it was good for my weary soul after a rough couple of days (the aches and pains of developing a new …

the flogging machine

kathyescobar crazy making, healing, just because i thought it was funny, the carnival in my head, the refuge 15 Comments

a friend emailed me yesterday and told me she had been hanging out in the flogging machine.  in my earlier post i referred to it, but  i realized that my friends from the refuge and some others may know what i am talking about but others might not have any idea what it means.  i did recently have someone ask “do you mean a fogging machine?”  and i’m like, “no, those are in concerts (and sometimes churches).” here’s the definition of flogging:  to beat with a whip, …

5.15.07 from the refuge blog…Downward Mobility

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Well it’s official I am over the hill! 40 years old. I know those of you who have already hit this mark don’t have a lick of sympathy for me. My favorite card this year was made by my son Josh, who’s 15. Here’s what he made up: Roses are red, violets are blue You might be 40 but you look 22 Yeah, he’s a liar, but he loves me (and if you ever need a self-esteem lift, just talk to Josh, he’s the best at …

5.4.07 from xgcw…don’t go back to sleep!

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i used to always say “ignorance is bliss”…i don’t believe it’s true, but i do sometimes wish my eyes hadn’t ever opened to the truth and reality of my life and crazy patterns and true need for God. life was so much easier when i was in denial! of course it wasn’t easier…it stunk, but when i was in denial, i definitely didn’t have to feel as much pain or be as aware of my “stuff” or my desperate need for Jesus’ real help and hope …