unbind her

kathyescobar church stuff, ex good christian women, healing, the refuge 16 Comments

i spent the past couple of days in downtown denver at a women’s event that some dear women i know put together called woman come forth. i run in weird diverse circles. i have my wild and crazy emerging friends, my conservative evangelical friends, my don’t-go-to-church-and-don’t-plan-to-anymore friends, my recovery friends, my eclecic refuge friends, my i-have-had-bad-experiences-with-christians-but-i-kind-of-like-you friends, and a hodge-podge of other lovely people God has brought across my path.   i am very thankful for the richness it all brings.  but sometimes it’s all kind of comical! this event …

facing crazy, paralyzing fears: a fun story

kathyescobar dreams, healing 13 Comments

i had a really fun adventure yesterday.  i got to fly to san diego for the day with one of my dear friends, the lovely & brave sharla jackson.  it wasn’t just an ordinary trip.  it was actually 10 years–yes, 10 years–in the making.  you see, sharla has been terrified of flying (i have known her for 10 years but it’s been 16 years since her last flight!).  she doesn’t have the “oh, it freaks me out a little bit” fear of flying.  she has the extremely-nauseous-and-anxious-just-thinking-about-it,  …

do it anyway

kathyescobar dreams, healing 8 Comments

i took a week off blogging,  just had nothing to really muster up and so it felt kind of good not to even think about it.   i am not too inspired this week, either, but i did come across a really good song yesterday at my favorite monthly gathering with my dear friends, brave-courageous-in-the-trenches-women,  that i thought i’d share.  anyone who knows me knows i can’t stand country music, like i really, really don’t like it.  i can do a few crossover songs from the dixie chicks, keith …

surviving spiritual vertigo

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, healing, spiritual formation, the carnival in my head 14 Comments

this post is part of a synchroblog (a group of bloggers writing on the same topic at the same time. check out their links at the bottom of this post) put together by my blog-friend-on-the-journey glenn hager.   the topic is called the revolutionaries synchroblog and you can read more about it here, but the basic idea is some thoughts & perspectives for those who: have been wounded through serving & separating from ‘church as they  have known it” are feeling alone are former church leaders/staff members …

today is a new day

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today is a new day.  you can start fresh, wipe the slate clean and begin again.  that’s the first statement on this really lovely poster i have at my house that jen lemen created for cool people care.  i bought it for a few friends last fall.   i framed one for me, too, and i look at it every day.  there’s something powerful in the simple words, a gentle reminder that life is meant to be lived.  there is beauty to see, people to love, kindness to be passed …

the shack

kathyescobar healing, jesus is cool, spiritual formation 10 Comments

lots of people have been reading the shack these days, especially those in blogland where word is on the street. what i am finding, though, is many people have never heard of it. it hasn’t made its way into the mainstream yet, but i definitely have a sense that its on its way there.  i am sort of over “the next great book that will change your life forever” mentality.  i will say this about the shack, though:  i am glad i read it.  it was a nice little …

the tortoise and the hare

kathyescobar ex good christian women, healing, spiritual formation, the carnival in my head, the refuge 8 Comments

remember this aesop’s fable?  with five kids i have read my share over the years…the stories are really timeless and profound in more ways than one.   a few weeks ago the story of the tortoise and the hare came back onto my scan, and i have been thinking about it a lot.   at our house of refuge jose asked us to look through magazines and pull out pictures that represented some form of a check in, something about where we were spiritually, emotionally, whatever.   the picture i was most …

friday-saturday-sunday living

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    for the past few weeks at the refuge we have been walking through the days of easter weekend.  we put ourselves in the cycle of these three days, starting with friday–the night Jesus was crucified–with a look at death.  then we moved to saturday, the day after, when the sorrow, shock, and lament at the reality of loss kicks in.   and on easter sunday we’ll look at the new life and hope that comes through the resurrection. we’ve spent the majority of our time focusing in on …