surviving spiritual vertigo

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, healing, spiritual formation, the carnival in my head 14 Comments

this post is part of a synchroblog (a group of bloggers writing on the same topic at the same time. check out their links at the bottom of this post) put together by my blog-friend-on-the-journey glenn hager.   the topic is called the revolutionaries synchroblog and you can read more about it here, but the basic idea is some thoughts & perspectives for those who: have been wounded through serving & separating from ‘church as they  have known it” are feeling alone are former church leaders/staff members …

today is a new day

kathyescobar dreams, healing, spiritual formation 9 Comments

today is a new day.  you can start fresh, wipe the slate clean and begin again.  that’s the first statement on this really lovely poster i have at my house that jen lemen created for cool people care.  i bought it for a few friends last fall.   i framed one for me, too, and i look at it every day.  there’s something powerful in the simple words, a gentle reminder that life is meant to be lived.  there is beauty to see, people to love, kindness to be passed …

the shack

kathyescobar healing, jesus is cool, spiritual formation 10 Comments

lots of people have been reading the shack these days, especially those in blogland where word is on the street. what i am finding, though, is many people have never heard of it. it hasn’t made its way into the mainstream yet, but i definitely have a sense that its on its way there.  i am sort of over “the next great book that will change your life forever” mentality.  i will say this about the shack, though:  i am glad i read it.  it was a nice little …

the tortoise and the hare

kathyescobar ex good christian women, healing, spiritual formation, the carnival in my head, the refuge 8 Comments

remember this aesop’s fable?  with five kids i have read my share over the years…the stories are really timeless and profound in more ways than one.   a few weeks ago the story of the tortoise and the hare came back onto my scan, and i have been thinking about it a lot.   at our house of refuge jose asked us to look through magazines and pull out pictures that represented some form of a check in, something about where we were spiritually, emotionally, whatever.   the picture i was most …

friday-saturday-sunday living

kathyescobar healing, spiritual formation 5 Comments

    for the past few weeks at the refuge we have been walking through the days of easter weekend.  we put ourselves in the cycle of these three days, starting with friday–the night Jesus was crucified–with a look at death.  then we moved to saturday, the day after, when the sorrow, shock, and lament at the reality of loss kicks in.   and on easter sunday we’ll look at the new life and hope that comes through the resurrection. we’ve spent the majority of our time focusing in on …

a community where men cry

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, the refuge 7 Comments

i am not into talking that much about the differences between men and women.  in fact, i rarely, if ever, do because i just lean on the bottom line, that we are human beings and both essentially need the same things.  yes, of course inside we might be wired a little differently emotionally, but i hate the stereotypes and the way writers pigeon hole men and women:  “men just want respect, women just need love” “men are from mars and women are from venus” “men want the facts, women …

why prepositions matter

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, relationships, spiritual formation, the refuge 11 Comments

my friends know a lot about incarnational relationships.  in the trenches at milehigh ministries, they are passionate about all the same stuff i am.   a few weeks ago they facilitated our sunday refuge gathering and shared about the spiritual discipline of incarnational relationships.  the official word in the richard foster books would be “service and submission” but we thought we’d take a little different angle.  to us, in what we are committed to living out together at the refuge, serving & submitting is really about living incarnationally …

the power of the ordinary

kathyescobar church stuff, dreams, healing, jesus is cool, spiritual formation 3 Comments

this past week i stumbled on a quote at my friend makeesha’s blog by shane claiborne (one of my favorite voices for change in the kingdom of God). claiborne said”:  “get ready, people, God has prepared you for something really, really small!” oh i know that will really get the goats of so many people who believe the spiritual life is about moving mountains.  i am not discounting the importance of big dreams.  but what i have found is that many many people believe that because they …