failure week.

kathyescobar ex good christian women, healing, just because i thought it was fun, leadership 2 Comments

I’ve got a few more weeks before I take my annual break-all-the-rules-of-successful-blogging summer sabbatical. I’m a bit behind this year but will be here for 2 more weeks and then gone until september 1st. This week, I wanted to finish up one blog project I have been trying to get to for almost a year now–Failure Week. Grief Week was a few years ago (5 days on the 5 stages of grief) and I’ve been wanting to spend some extra time focusing on an area that …

the church could use a recovery meeting.

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, incarnational, jesus is cool 12 Comments

I always say that AA, Alcoholics Anonymous, is the strongest and most transformational church in the world.  Little pockets of love & freedom are meeting all over the place right now in all kinds of shapes and forms. Dear, beautiful, sincere people seeking change not in theory but in real-life. Built upon the spirit of The Beatitudes, the 12 steps are a beautiful path to personal and spiritual transformation. My experience has been that typical church is not crazy about recovery stuff. So many times over a lot of …

dogs & God.

kathyescobar healing 10 Comments

I’ve been in a huge fog for the past 2 weeks.  We came home on Good Friday from a fun spring break adventure to Melbourne, Australia (for 48 hours!) to the news that our beloved yellow lab, Sadie, was very sick. She was on medication for a few days, and we had hope that maybe she was going to rebound. Then, a few days later we got the results of her ultrasound and the news was very, very bad. We spent one last 24 hours with …

war wounds, part 2.

kathyescobar healing, incarnational, the refuge 4 Comments

I originally wrote the post below in 2006 when I didn’t have a blog but The Refuge did. It was almost exactly 10 years ago. It’s a little freaky, the reality that a decade has flown by and in a few weeks The Refuge is celebrating our 10 year anniversary.  It’s also a little freaky that 10 years later, I had a different kind of surgery–more invasive this time–to get out another skin cancer near my old one. I’m so glad they got it early. It’s still all …

out in the desert.

kathyescobar faith shifts, healing, identity 12 Comments

One of the things I sometimes hear about people who unravel their faith and end up on the outside of all they once knew is that they are being “rebellious, hard-hearted, self-centered, or mislead.” It’s an interesting observation because usually it comes from people who are feeling halfway decent about God, the Bible, and their faith. They are on the inside looking out, assuming far beyond what meets the eye. Unraveling, while messy and painful and confusing, is often one of the most sincere and faithful experiences …

God’s got us.

kathyescobar faith shifts, healing, spiritual formation 13 Comments

A chunk of months ago I had the most amazing conversation with a reader of Faith Shift about the fear involved in Unraveling once tightly held beliefs. It’s a long story, but there was a beautiful sincerity in her words that I know she isn’t alone in. What if, at the end of the day, we go too far in this whole faith shifting thing? What if there’s some elusive line that we cross over in our transformation that means that God’s done with us completely? …

different not divided.

kathyescobar church stuff, dreams, friendship, healing, incarnational, leadership, relationships, spiritual formation, the refuge, video convos 7 Comments

One of the things I care the most about is creating spaces and places where people can have hard conversations about life and faith. It’s not the easiest task. And to be honest, it’s much simpler to cultivate a safe space for recovery and healing than it is to create a space to hold our different theological differences in tension. Intra-faith dialogue is sometimes far trickier than inter-faith dialogue. Online conversations, while annoying, are often so much easier than face-to-face, in real life, with people that we …

God in the thick of us.

kathyescobar advent & lent, healing, incarnational, jesus is cool 8 Comments

Happy Christmas Eve. I am juggling kids and Refuge this week with no time to write but always come back to the gift of Jesus, Emmanuel, God with us. It’s one of the deepest spiritual truths that continues to sustain me and was the one thing that I could always rely on during my crazy faith Unraveling.  This is a post I wrote for She Loves Magazine 3 years ago but I think I’d write the same thing today. Tonight we celebrate God with us, in …