WTF, God?

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One of my greatest joys is to journey alongside people in their honest relationship with God.  I have yet to encounter someone in spiritual direction who was saying things like “I am feeling so great spiritually!” “I’ve never been this connected to God.” or “I am completely filled up.”  Usually, our conversations are wrestling with disconnection, fear, anger, mistrust, separation, and honestly a lot of questions that start with WTF, God? I understand that a lot of people might be offended by that. Can we really …

broken heart syndrome.

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I had a little scare last week with my heart. When I called my doctor’s office to tell them what was going on with me, a heaviness in my heart that kept persisting, they told me to go straight to the nearest Urgent Care. I did. My husband was scared when I told him what they said. I was scared when they started doing every test under the sun. But then, test by test, they all came out clear. Physically, my heart was fine. The pain …

formation friday: breathe

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I originally wrote this post for SheLoves Magazine’s December edition, but I thought I’d share it here today  with a few small modifications as so many I know are trying to find their way through hard situations, whether it be politics in the USA that’s trying to wear all the persisters out as quickly as possible or those who are just exhausted and troubled by the life’s realities. Formation Fridays are a series of posts I’ve written over time centered on practice, on tangible ways to …

wallking wounded: hope for those hurt by church & ministry

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It’s been a long while since we’ve hosted a Walking Wounded: Hope for Those Hurt by Church and Ministry, an online course that my dear friend and collaborator, Phyllis Mathis and I created a chunk of years ago to help men and women of all different backgrounds and experiences find their way to greater healing after some kind of church, faith, ministry wound. Really, it’s about grief. About honoring our feelings in a safe space, about hanging out with other people who have different stories but …

healers, bridge builders, table setters, storytellers, law changers, community cultivators.

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It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that the United States of America feels like the Divided States of America. The sentiment is strong on all sides. Many defending Donald Trump, his cabinet picks, and the laws being changed, and many others pushing against what just happened in our country in a strong and significant way. Christians are on all sides of the issues, some vehemently supporting the right, with others vehemently supporting the left, with others exiting all-things-faith to find community and connection in …

formation friday: a christmas 2016 prayer

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Tomorrow is Christmas Eve; my kids are all home, and the older they get the more I realize the treasure of that time. We had our last Christmas party on Wednesday night and I’m beginning to get ready to go into vacation mode! For some weird reason the past few weeks post-election I’ve been coming back to a prayer that I wrote a long time ago here as part of Formation Fridays called A Shifter’s Prayer. It ended up being the last paragraph of Faith Shift: Finding …

hope, my favorite word.

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If you know me in real life, you know my favorite word is Hope. Refuge friends tease me about it all of the time, and for good reason. I love the word and have written it on my share of rocks over the years. I know hope is dangerous.  It’s vulnerable.  It’s scary. But it is the fuel that keeps us going. No matter how dark it can get, a shred of hope, the tiniest of sparks, the smallest ember, can make a difference, sometimes between …

light, hope, dignity, justice, peace.

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Love is the whole thing. We are only pieces. ~ Rumi Tomorrow’s Election Day in the USA. Whoa, it’s been a brutal year. The division. The vitriol. The fracturing. The bombardment from every angle on social media. The influx of crazy “news” sources that people think are real. The memes. The comments. The friends and family members we can’t believe are voting this way or that. The fear. The anger. The trauma. The reality of our broken system. But here we are, flawed messy beautiful human …