formation friday: a christmas 2016 prayer

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Tomorrow is Christmas Eve; my kids are all home, and the older they get the more I realize the treasure of that time. We had our last Christmas party on Wednesday night and I’m beginning to get ready to go into vacation mode! For some weird reason the past few weeks post-election I’ve been coming back to a prayer that I wrote a long time ago here as part of Formation Fridays called A Shifter’s Prayer. It ended up being the last paragraph of Faith Shift: Finding …

formation friday: you’re not a failure.

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It’s the end of Failure Week around here, the last post in this series. I know there’s so much ground we didn’t cover, but this is all I’ve got this round. Today, I wanted to bring back a Formation Friday related to failure (really, it’s Formation Saturday). After this summer blogging break, I am hoping to get back in the groove of more Formation Fridays because I could use them in my own life, a little extra love in the spiritual formation department. There are a lot …

formation friday: screwing up as spiritual formation

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I make a lot of mistakes. I say stupid things I regret. I dig holes when I should lay down my shovel. I hurt people unintentionally. I hit “send” on emails when I wish I hadn’t. I write things on my blog that sometimes make me cringe later. The past few months I had some extra screw ups, moments where I wish I could turn time back, where I knew I said too much and it caused more damage. There were moments where if I had …

formation friday: missing God

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“my soul is dry and thirsts for you, true God, as a deer thirsts for water.” – psalm 42:1, the voice one of the things i hear a lot when i am talking to my friends who have shifted in their faith is how much we miss God/Jesus sometimes. it’s an interesting mix. some people miss church and some people have never looked back. some are fine with a distance from God and need some space to get their heads and heart a little more together after …

formation friday: enneagram love (and hate)

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i know so many people despise personality tools. they hate how they put us in boxes and label us and limit us.  i get that, but i think they can be really helpful tools to better understand ourselves, too. a few years ago i intersected with the enneagram, which in some christian circles is considered somehow taboo because of its jungian roots, but i can honestly say that out of all of the personality tests i have ever taken it has been the most helpful–and the …

formation friday: touchstones

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a touchstone: a test or criterion for determining the quality or genuineness of a thing. on wednesday night at our house of refuge, my lovely and wise friend daisha facilitated a beautiful and simple evening centered on the idea of faith touchstones. not everyone has experienced a significant faith shift (although it sure seems a lot of us have!) but the reality is that all of us experience times where we need something real, deep, and sustaining to come back to. we need a powerful truth that …

formation friday: transitions

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it’s been a while since i’ve written a formation friday.  oh, how i wish there was a better way to capture some of the fun stuff we do at the refuge in different venues, but i can’t quite figure out a good system for that. maybe, someday. meanwhile, will just have to share what i can when i can.  in september we spent some time talking about transitions, considering the exodus story and the journey of the israelites out of egypt into the direction of the …

formation friday: our inner pharisee

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once in a while it’s fun to focus in on one topic longer than a post, and i am glad for the different responses to “healing the divides” week; if even one conversation or relationship could be different because of it, it was way worth it to me.  the other posts this week are: 8 ways those from more liberal-progressive and conservative-evangelical persuasions can better love each other, safer people make safer conversations, breaking down walls, and deeper dignified dialogue. i haven’t posted a formation friday (better …