from standing tall to on the floor: conversations on patriarchy.

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Years ago a friend from The Refuge hosted a Listening Party for Christian men to listen to a panel of women on our experiences as female leaders. It was a brave thing to pull together. We looked forward to having a space to share our experiences and be heard by our Christian brothers. The only problem was when we showed up, there were about 40 women in the room and 7 men. His efforts were incredibly sincere; the reality is that men just didn’t come. Listening …

5 reasons we need more women leading in the world.

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“We are all meant to be mothers of God…for God is always needing to be born.” ~ Meister Eckhardt Last month we had our Blue Christmas gathering at The Refuge. A contemplative space, Refuge friends created different stations to engage with different aspects of a season that can be hard for so many in different ways. My favorite station was centered on images of Mary and Jesus in a wide variety of cultures. The reflection included the Christian mystic Meister Eckhardt’s words. Eckhardt (like other mystics), …

the tip of the “me, too” iceberg

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I’ll get Part 2 of the Life Shift thoughts up next, but I have been overwhelmed with the amount of “me, toos” in my Facebook feed over the last two days. In light of the Harvey Weinstein story of insidious sexual harassment in the motion picture industry, women have been responding to this call: “If all the women who have been sexually harassed or assaulted wrote ‘Me too’ as a status, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.” My Facebook Feed …

what’s our knee to take?

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It’s been yet another whirlwind week in our country, with the President of the United States of America calling out professional athletes protesting racism in America. The flames of division continue to rise and rage. The sides continue to become more polarized. The crazy train we are on keeps picking up speed. I could go on about the despair I sometimes feel about our current presidency, but that’s not going to be productive today. I was just finishing a post on life shifts but put it …

there are lots of ways to mother (and the world sure needs it right now)

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It’s Mother’s Day in the USA today, the time where a bunch of women feel special and extra-loved, and another group of women often don’t. Like so many other holidays, many who feel great about it  sometimes forget that there are others who are aching. Church is extra sucky if they make all the mothers stand up and get a flower and you’re the one still sitting. In divorced families, the reality of what’s been lost creeps up.  Others have lost their mothers or significant women in …

a better story.

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It’s bad out here, people! The political division, the way Christianity is all tied up in it, the fear, hatred, ugly, and unknown. Everyone who reads here doesn’t agree with my faith and politics but most everyone these days is feeling the pressure, disorientation, anger, the sometimes-hopelessness that we will ever come back to some kind of unity after this much division. I really don’t know how this is all going to turn out; we’re only 100 days into this administration and it’s far more brutal …

jezebel, eve, and the baggage we keep carrying.

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I was out of the country in Peru last week on a fun spring break adventure with our twins, and when I got back and turned on my computer I saw a flurry of posts related to Vice President Mike Pence’s application of the “Billy Graham Rule.” Never being alone with a woman other than his wife. No lunch, no dinner, no coffee. No nothing alone. Ever. I saw comments on Facebook that were all over the place. Ones that praised his “wisdom” and ones that …

rising together.

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Today is International Women’s Day. You all know I am a passionate advocate for women and write about it all the time here. Our equality is all tied up together. Unless we’re all free, none of us are free, and it’s important to always remind ourselves that well behaved women won’t change the church (or history). Equality is a verb.  The boats need to be rocked, and the path forward means we will have to educate, advocate, agitate, and that usually always comes with a cost. Some of you …