there are lots of ways to mother (and the world sure needs it right now)

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It’s Mother’s Day in the USA today, the time where a bunch of women feel special and extra-loved, and another group of women often don’t. Like so many other holidays, many who feel great about it  sometimes forget that there are others who are aching. Church is extra sucky if they make all the mothers stand up and get a flower and you’re the one still sitting. In divorced families, the reality of what’s been lost creeps up.  Others have lost their mothers or significant women in …

a better story.

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It’s bad out here, people! The political division, the way Christianity is all tied up in it, the fear, hatred, ugly, and unknown. Everyone who reads here doesn’t agree with my faith and politics but most everyone these days is feeling the pressure, disorientation, anger, the sometimes-hopelessness that we will ever come back to some kind of unity after this much division. I really don’t know how this is all going to turn out; we’re only 100 days into this administration and it’s far more brutal …

jezebel, eve, and the baggage we keep carrying.

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I was out of the country in Peru last week on a fun spring break adventure with our twins, and when I got back and turned on my computer I saw a flurry of posts related to Vice President Mike Pence’s application of the “Billy Graham Rule.” Never being alone with a woman other than his wife. No lunch, no dinner, no coffee. No nothing alone. Ever. I saw comments on Facebook that were all over the place. Ones that praised his “wisdom” and ones that …

rising together.

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Today is International Women’s Day. You all know I am a passionate advocate for women and write about it all the time here. Our equality is all tied up together. Unless we’re all free, none of us are free, and it’s important to always remind ourselves that well behaved women won’t change the church (or history). Equality is a verb.  The boats need to be rocked, and the path forward means we will have to educate, advocate, agitate, and that usually always comes with a cost. Some of you …

strap in, dream making is a brutal bumpy road

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Today is Martin Luther King, Jr. Day. I always love remembering Dr. King and the beautiful work he and so many others did and are doing on behalf of equality and justice. I’m a dreamer. A hopeful realist. A “we can do it” kind of person. I believe in MLK’s dream, and oh, I’ve written about dreams over all these years in so many different ways. Dreams Re-dux, Dreaming and Making What Could Be, Be, We Have a Dream, This Dream is so Possible, Dreamers, Lovers, …

sanctuary people.

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I was happy to hear last week that Boulder, Colorado, which is just north of where we live, has declared itself a “sanctuary city” related to immigrants at risk. I’m attending another meeting next week about churches becoming “sanctuary churches,” safe places for individuals and families who could be deported (The Refuge can’t host overnight guests because of provisions in our lease but I’m looking forward to learning more at the meeting). Some of the definitions of “sanctuary” include: 1. a sacred or holy place. 2. the part of a church around the altar. 3. a church or other sacred place where fugitives were formerly entitled to immunity from arrest. 4. any place of refuge; asylum. It made me …

my unsolicited advice

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For almost 9 years I’ve been writing my guts out about church and faith and life and all my dreams of what could be. Despite the vulnerability and what it’s cost me in certain circles, I’m inspired by the incredible people I’ve met over the years through this blog who are changing systems that need changing, who have moved the needle on equality and justice and greater-emotional-health in the churches and ministries and organizations they are part of. You keep me in! Yet, as much as I’ve …

when our deepest values get violated.

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Post-election I’ve been thinking a lot about Nonviolent Communication. I’m not the best at it but I try. It’s been incredibly helpful for me as a tool to notice how unhelpful jackal words are in building connection between people (and how much they’ve been used since November 9th and oh, I’ve said my fair share) and also how underneath all of my feelings are needs. For me, another way I describe needs are core values–values that guide and fuel and propel and compel me. That connect me …