our codependent relationship with God

kathyescobar church stuff, doesn't really go anywhere else, ex good christian women, healing, identity 10 Comments

Since I entered into recovery a big chunk of years ago, I came face to face with the realities of my co-dependency. As an adult child of an alcoholic, a 2 on the Enneagram, a pastor, and dyed-in-the-wool people pleaser, I pretty much hit codependency on all cylinders! The truth is most of us are codependent in some way, and it’s not just if we’re in relationship with addicts. All our control and addiction issues have their roots in codependency; it’s part of the human condition. Melody …

insecure christians & piles of other posts

kathyescobar doesn't really go anywhere else 2 Comments

hey friends, today i have a guest post up at my friend rachel held evan’s rockin’ blog.  it’s called insecure christians so go check it out!  you can comment there or here, if you want.  i’d love to hear your thoughts as this is a subject near and dear to my heart, and i believe wholeheartedly that “the spiritual journey is to uncover God’s image that was originally placed there.”  also, this weekend i added a link to my blog of posts i wrote for communitas …

a busy bee

kathyescobar church stuff, doesn't really go anywhere else, the carnival in my head 6 Comments

ah, life at the escobar house is always an adventure. it’s been a good season for all kinds of refuge community fun, we’re on our last week of summer before the kids go back to school & our wonderful friends from portland–ken loyd & jessica roye from home-pdx in portland just left.  they are seriously good for the soul.  when the kids go back to school i am always a little excited to get back in our groove of a little less chaos (i know some …

waking up

kathyescobar church stuff, doesn't really go anywhere else, dreams 21 Comments

i have come to see that america is in danger of losing her soul, something must happen to awaken the dozing soul of america before it is too late. – martin luther king jr. what a week it’s been.  a historic election that none of us will ever forget.  a sense of hope & purpose & we-ness that hasn’t been felt in a long time by so many (i realize there are some that don’t feel that way and i understand, but the reality is that …

me + movies = happy

kathyescobar doesn't really go anywhere else, just because i thought it was fun, spiritual formation 8 Comments

i have said before, i really, really love the movies! it’s a way i connect with God & life and is my most favorite escape. well, this summer i set a little goal to watch as many movies as i possibly could for the next few months and to not feel guilty about it.  this will be a more relaxing summer than usual.  with 5 kids at home, jose studying for the bar (he takes it on july 31st), and the refuge foundation a little more solid, i decided …

faith & politics: my journey

kathyescobar crazy making, doesn't really go anywhere else, ex good christian women, fundamentalism 8 Comments

imagine that?   for years, honestly, i acted like i was 100% sure that God was a republican (a great quote i was reminded of this week by anne lamott:   “we can be pretty certain we’ve created God in our own image if he hates all the same people we do.” thanks, jonathan)  oh, how that was me!  please, anyone i have harmed or offended with my one-mindedness in years-past, forgive me.  trust me, i have already made my share of amends. i confess, for a pretty long season i was weirdly entrenched …

a little re-post here, a little link there

kathyescobar church stuff, doesn't really go anywhere else, spiritual formation, the fam, the refuge 8 Comments

instead of re-creating the wheel, i thought i’d just pass on a few other posts from the refuge and the collage workshop i went to this past weekend.   the refuge post is about some of the marks of authentic community & some of the things we are passionate about. you can check it out here. jenny wrote about the collage workshop that the refuge hosted on saturday.  she has some good pictures you can check out here.  it was 3 hours of therapy for $5!!  so good.  great company …

quirks r fun

kathyescobar doesn't really go anywhere else, just because i thought it was funny 4 Comments

okay so maybe i really am in blog-land now,  i always used to see these things when i was reading other people’s blogs:  people would get tagged by someone else to respond to some specific questions and then tag someone else.  i always felt left out (typical me, i hate to not be in on the party).  anyway, today i got tagged by glenn and erin to participate (it made me smile and was a good diversion to the crazy & sad week i’ve had (more on …