codependent-with-god

our codependent relationship with God

kathyescobar church stuff, doesn't really go anywhere else, ex good christian women, healing, identity 5 Comments

Since I entered into recovery a big chunk of years ago, I came face to face with the realities of my co-dependency. As an adult child of an alcoholic, a 2 on the Enneagram, a pastor, and dyed-in-the-wool people pleaser, I pretty much hit codependency on all cylinders! The truth is most of us are codependent in some way, and it’s not just if we’re in relationship with addicts. All our control and addiction issues have their roots in codependency; it’s part of the human condition. Melody …

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why i’m still in.

kathyescobar blog, church stuff, dreams, equality, faith shifts, the refuge 0 Comments

I’m back! It took me a while! September 1st came and went but I am happy to be back in this space again for this next season. It is always good for me to not think in blog for a few months and as much as it’s hard for me to stop, I have come to value the importance of an intentional break every summer. As a lot of you know, this summer got off to a very bumpy start with transitions at The Refuge and I …

hope prevails

transformation hurts.

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, the refuge 4 Comments

Oh, it’s been a brutal week around here and I am just starting to come up for air. Many of you reading already connect on Facebook but I wanted to make sure and share this here, too. In the middle of celebrating The Refuge’s 10 Year Anniversary and many other amazing things that have been happening in our community, there’s been a back story conversation related to gay weddings in the Refuge facility. Even though we settled this years ago, agreeing to be a community that lived …

no body but ours

no body but ours.

kathyescobar church stuff, equality, faith shifts, healing, incarnational, injustice 7 Comments

A whole lot of years ago, in the 1500’s, St. Teresa of Avila wrote this: Christ Has No Body Christ has no body but yours, No hands, no feet on earth but yours, Yours are the eyes with which he looks Compassion on this world, Yours are the feet with which he walks to do good, Yours are the hands, with which he blesses all the world. Yours are the hands, yours are the feet, Yours are the eyes, you are his body. Christ has no …

the kids are alright

the kids are alright.

kathyescobar church stuff, ex good christian women, faith shifts, mommydom 13 Comments

If you’re friends with me on Facebook, your Newsfeed has been clogged with pictures of my daughter’s college graduation. Oh, what a beautiful weekend we had in New York City celebrating with family and friends. We are so proud of her! After four years in the Bronx, she is now moving on to dental school in the fall. We have now officially graduated two kids from college and have three more to go! Moments like these always cause me to look back and reflect, to consider …

the casualties of belief

“when people are the casualty of belief”

kathyescobar church stuff, equality, faith shifts, incarnational, injustice 6 Comments

I was in a conversation last week with some amazing brave and wise friends, talking about Faith Shift stuff. One of them said something that has stuck with me ever since and has been rolling around in my head and heart. The problem that a lot of us have as we grow in passion for justice and equality and change in the world as part of our shifting faith is “when people are the casualty of belief.” When people are the casualty of belief. Yes, there are …

what if the church went to  recovery meeting

the church could use a recovery meeting.

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, incarnational, jesus is cool 12 Comments

I always say that AA, Alcoholics Anonymous, is the strongest and most transformational church in the world.  Little pockets of love & freedom are meeting all over the place right now in all kinds of shapes and forms. Dear, beautiful, sincere people seeking change not in theory but in real-life. Built upon the spirit of The Beatitudes, the 12 steps are a beautiful path to personal and spiritual transformation. My experience has been that typical church is not crazy about recovery stuff. So many times over a lot of …

theology is not only about understanding the world

why inter-faith dialogue is something easier than intra-faith dialogue.

kathyescobar church stuff, faith shifts, incarnational 2 Comments

Last month the Refuge hosted an Interfaith Learning Party at The Refuge. It was so beautiful and fun and one of my dreams for this year. We had a full house and 4 leaders on the panel, mainly from the Interfaith Group I am part of in Denver–a Palestinian Muslim woman who leads an educational organization in Denver, a Jewish Rabbi, a Buddhist Monk, and a Hindu community educator. The purpose was to create a container for Christians to learn and break down some of the walls …