the kids are alright

the kids are alright.

kathyescobar church stuff, ex good christian women, faith shifts, mommydom 3 Comments

If you’re friends with me on Facebook, your Newsfeed has been clogged with pictures of my daughter’s college graduation. Oh, what a beautiful weekend we had in New York City celebrating with family and friends. We are so proud of her! After four years in the Bronx, she is now moving on to dental school in the fall. We have now officially graduated two kids from college and have three more to go! Moments like these always cause me to look back and reflect, to consider …

the casualties of belief

“when people are the casualty of belief”

kathyescobar church stuff, equality, faith shifts, incarnational, injustice 6 Comments

I was in a conversation last week with some amazing brave and wise friends, talking about Faith Shift stuff. One of them said something that has stuck with me ever since and has been rolling around in my head and heart. The problem that a lot of us have as we grow in passion for justice and equality and change in the world as part of our shifting faith is “when people are the casualty of belief.” When people are the casualty of belief. Yes, there are …

what if the church went to  recovery meeting

the church could use a recovery meeting.

kathyescobar church stuff, healing, incarnational, jesus is cool 11 Comments

I always say that AA, Alcoholics Anonymous, is the strongest and most transformational church in the world.  Little pockets of love & freedom are meeting all over the place right now in all kinds of shapes and forms. Dear, beautiful, sincere people seeking change not in theory but in real-life. Built upon the spirit of The Beatitudes, the 12 steps are a beautiful path to personal and spiritual transformation. My experience has been that typical church is not crazy about recovery stuff. So many times over a lot of …

theology is not only about understanding the world

why inter-faith dialogue is something easier than intra-faith dialogue.

kathyescobar church stuff, faith shifts, incarnational 2 Comments

Last month the Refuge hosted an Interfaith Learning Party at The Refuge. It was so beautiful and fun and one of my dreams for this year. We had a full house and 4 leaders on the panel, mainly from the Interfaith Group I am part of in Denver–a Palestinian Muslim woman who leads an educational organization in Denver, a Jewish Rabbi, a Buddhist Monk, and a Hindu community educator. The purpose was to create a container for Christians to learn and break down some of the walls …

faith circus for podcast logo

faith circus & new adventures in podcasting.

kathyescobar church stuff, the refuge 9 Comments

I love trying new things. I love unedited conversations. I love what can happen when you don’t have a script and don’t try to craft something in a certain direction but just let things emerge. That’s what Faith Circus is all about.  It’s a new weekly podcast I am doing with my dear friend and co-pastor at The Refuge, Karl Wheeler. We are calling it Faith Circus: big tent, high-wire conversations about church, faith, and life without a net (and an occasional elephant in the room).  It …

the golden rule

some possibilities for bridge building instead of bombing (even though i’m better at that).

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, faith shifts, friendship, leadership, relationships 4 Comments

I know I can be such a hypocrite. I say one thing and do another. I’m human. I’m doing the best I can with what I have but want to keep improving. I also think the how-do-I-stand-for-what-I-believe-or-think-needs-to-be-said-without-being-mean can be a dilemma. Take the Trump conversation, for example. I believe passionately we need to consider our addiction to kings. And this is my blog and a place where I can process out loud. I am sure some would prefer the language was softer or more balanced or …

We've got to give up our addiction to kings.

the trump travesty.

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, fundamentalism, leadership, rants 36 Comments

On the whole, I stay away from political stuff around here. Once in a while I write something, but the divisiveness is just too crazy and I’d much rather talk about other things. At the same time, over the past several years I have become more clear about how important it is to participate in the political process. Legislation does matter, and we can contribute to change that way. I recently had the privilege of testifying at a Colorado house commitee meeting, speaking against a horrid …

comfort zone

oh, conferences-schmonferences

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, down we go, leadership 15 Comments

I’m not a huge fan of Christian leadership conferences. They have their place. I have met some wonderful people at gatherings over the years, and heard some really excellent messages here and there. I have been a participant. I have been a speaker. I have been a workshop presenter. I have been an I-think-I’ll-just-stay-out-in-the-lobby-and-talk-to-my-friends-because-that-will-be-more-meaningful attendee. I have paid to go. I have been paid to go. I have gone by myself. I have gone with a group. I have checked my email and Facebook the entire …