henri nouwen show not tell

Christian show or tell?

kathyescobar church stuff, down we go, equality, faith shifts, healing, incarnational 7 Comments

I recently had a brief and good but challenging conversation with a friend about Christian belief. It wasn’t a long drawn out one, but as they were explaining the ins and outs of why a particular belief was important, I could feel my body tense up and my heart shut down. The only thing I could think of was “I don’t care. I don’t care. I don’t care. I don’t want to talk about this. I don’t want to talk about this. I don’t want to …

we want more meat

“we want more meat…”

kathyescobar crazy making, down we go, rants, spiritual formation 4 Comments

So far, we’ve covered “But God says…” and “I’m not like those people” over the past few weeks (I’m moving slow; it’s been nutty around here this fall). Today is the last one in this series, at least for now, and is a phrase that I have heard for at least 20 years now (and have said many times myself way back when)–“I really want more meat.” I wrote about it a long time ago in a posted called Meat Lovers Beware! Our Taste Buds Have Been Contaminated …

im not like those people

“i’m not like those people”

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, down we go, incarnational, rants 11 Comments

I love what “but God says…” stirred up! Here’s the second installment of three phrases that really bug me for all kinds of reasons beyond just nitpicking-ness. Years ago when I first started in healing ministry, one of the biggest obstacles I encountered wasn’t within the groups I was in or led. Those were easy; sure, the amount of pain and honesty and struggle in the room was hard but the people in them were so beautiful and brave that it far outweighed it. The push …

but God says

“but God says…”

kathyescobar church stuff, crazy making, faith shifts, fundamentalism 23 Comments

People who know me well know I have some very clear pet peeves. Some are related to people gulping when they eat (ask my husband) or kids not answering their phone or texting back when we are supposed to meet somewhere (yes, I’m guilty of it, too), and a host of other insignificant things that annoy me. When it comes to faith stuff, I’ve got a few pet peeves, too, things that a lot of people say that drive me crazy. But some of these have a …

peace it does not mean to be in a place

brain fog & blog breaks & being back (sort-of)

kathyescobar blog, faith shifts, the refuge 2 Comments

It’s been a while! My last post here was june 4th, and it feels like just a few weeks ago but it’s been 3 months, wild. I am glad I took a longer break this year; I needed to not be thinking in blog all of the time. And it worked. I stopped thinking about it so much that September 1st came and went without even realizing it was here. A lot has happened over the past 3 months, and I wanted to catch up a …

make space

there’s plenty around here already.

kathyescobar blog 3 Comments

I’ll miss you all over the next several months, but I’m really looking forward to a summer break from blogging. A few years ago I took one month off.  For the past two years I took two months off.  This year, I’m going for three! I need it. I keep learning the value of rest and soul care, and even though it’s definitely not my first nature, I’m getting better at least attempting to practice it. The Refuge has a simpler summer rhythm, too, and I …


Christianity’s faith shift.

kathyescobar church stuff, faith shifts 11 Comments

I know the big news around the internet is the most recent Pew Study, showing the decline in church attendance. It makes me a little crazy, honestly, because instead of responding with “what is this telling us that we need to consider?” so much of the emphasis I have seen is on “how do we take this information and change how we do church and get them back somehow?” Plus, it doesn’t take a study to tell us what is so apparent in our own lives and the …


rebuilding: finding life again.

kathyescobar church stuff, faith shifts, spiritual formation 4 Comments

For the past 7 years now I have been writing about my own struggles with faith and doubt and church and have met so many awesome, sincere, wise, brave men and women who are wrestling with these same things, too.  It seems like one thing that really helps is to have some way to share the good, the bad, the ugly, and the beautiful parts of Unraveling. Over the years I was also really frustrated that even though a whole bunch of material was and has …