8 years old!

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Every January 1st is this blog’s birthday. And this week it’s 8 years old! I am so glad that I jumped in the waters all those years ago. It has been a gift to me in more ways than I can count, mainly the risk that’s been involved in saying out loud some of the things rattling around in my head (it’s a carnival in there) and connecting with so many amazing kindred spirits over the years.

It hasn’t been without its costs. The critique, the assumptions, the mean words that are sometimes emailed to me haven’t been the easiest thing in the world for people-pleaser-me, but it’s been the exact thing that I need to practice in my life.  Showing up, telling the truth, trusting God, letting go of the outcome.  Not having it all sorted out. Not trying to make everyone on all sides happy. Not editing all the time to make sure that no one’s feathers are ruffled or that everyone understands exactly what I mean (or like it).

I also have felt a bit more ambivalent about blogging since I returned from a 3 month break last summer. It really did help me not think in blog all the time, ha ha. What I have decided to do, at least for now, is just keep doing in some ways what I have always done–write when something comes, don’t when it doesn’t. My goal here has never been to develop something big or make something exciting happen but just have a space available and trust the right people always find it. I do wish sometimes I had more time to cultivate greater community here and on the Facebook page, but it just doesn’t work time-wise with the real-life realities of The Refuge community, my kids, and a lot of other things I’m always juggling. Thanks for understanding that.

At the end of each year, I always like to look back on what was up around here and share a little roundup.

Here they are, the top 10 posts of 2015:

1. a thing or two about narcissism (+ church) – this post blew them all out of the water and became the #1 most viewed post of all time. I am really happy about that (and sad, too) but hope that more and more people begin to recognize the ravages of narcissism in church leadership and break our addiction to charisma and inspiration.

2. friends-of-faith-shifters: things that help, things that hurt – Oh, faith shifting stuff can be so lonely, and there are some things that help and hurt that those who aren’t experiencing it can learn from.

3. Christianity’s faith shift  – I think western Christianity is in it’s own crazy faith shift, and some the same rhythms from the book that we can apply personally work here, too.

4. 5 popular ways to shut down conversations about power – It’s fascinating how easy these roll of the tip of our tongues in so many conversations about power.

5. church bingo: before and after our faith unravels – Just because I thought it was fun.

6. important words from parents of LGBQT kids: what hurts, what helps – I loved spending a few days in an amazing online support group for moms of LGBQT kids. They have a lot of wisdom we can learn from.

7. post-traumatic church syndrome is Real (and worthy of a capital letter) – So many are suffering from post-traumatic church syndrome (pick up my friend Reba Riley’s memoir if you haven’t yet).

8. leaving church to save our souls – There’s so much misconception about those who are “done” with church. I always say to not confuse “dones” with “don’t cares” and sometimes it’s true, leaving is what we need to do to save our souls.

9. when our christian faith is questioned – When our faith shifts and we don’t use the same language anymore, believe the same things, or play the same way, sometimes people can question our christian faith. It stinks.

10. “but God says…” – I did a 3 part series on phrases that really bug me.  I guess I wasn’t the only one :).

I also thought it was interesting that the #2 top post ever on the blog was this one from 2012:

  • ex-good-christian-women – It’s still one of my favorite phrases and love seeing women break free from all the baggage of what it means to be “good” as a christian woman.  It’s a travesty, the things so many of us were taught.

I also love writing for Sheloves Magazine every month. All the 2015 posts are here, but I loved that this particular one was by far the most read:

  • Small is Plenty – The emphasis on “big” and “wow” and “successful” has really done a number on so many of our heads when it comes to our dreams, passions, and ordinary lives. Small is plenty.
  • second place was one of my biggest “gulp” moments ever in blogging–about pictures of me online in a bathing suit surfing behind our boat–One of the Bravest Things I’ve Ever Done.

Lastly, a few other writing projects that I was really glad to be part of in 2015 that I’ve mentioned before but wanted to share one last time:

  • The Work of the People Videos about Faith Shift –  These videos originally came out right after Faith Shift released in October of 2015, but last fall, they released the videos as a bundle, along with a 6 part discussion guide to download so that pockets of people and small groups can process the material together. If you use them, let me know!
  • The Jesus-Centered Bible – I was honored to be part of this project and wrote the introductions to 4 books–Isaiah, Lamentations, Luke, and Colossians.  My favorite part of this Bible is that all of the verses that point to Jesus in the Old Testament are in blue, and the red extends beyond just the words of Jesus but any reference to Jesus in the New Testament.

Coming up on the blog soon in 2016:

  • Failure week, for real this time –  I never got around to posting this in 2015, but I’ve got 5 posts coming.  Failure!, Failed Relationships, Failed Faith, Failed Parenting, Formation Friday: Fear of Failure.  Yeah, I’m a real upper for the new year.
  • Rebuilding – I have meant to do this for a while, but I really want to walk through some thoughts on rebuilding from Faith Shift, maybe in video blog format, maybe in writing, who knows. But I am saying it out loud here because that means I will actually do it, so stay tuned.
  • Faith Shift Processing Party Online – I just have to spend some time to figure out the format, but we taped Denver and I will spend in the next few weeks I will work on what a closed group might look like for that so that others can participate. Meanwhile, if you are in Houston and want to come play in real life, I’ll be there at the end of January.

Again, thanks for reading. I love hearing your stories and what things get stirred up around here and how you’re clogging & slogging & scooching, too. It helps me more than you know.

Peace and hope for 2016,